General Things To Know When Dealing With PTSD (As a Carer)

[TinaG]

My lady pulled away for about two months that I could tell and then just went to her moms for what s...

I understand where your coming from, I feel deep down that I've lost him but I can only trust the plan God has given me. Either way I will always care and if he decides to reach out, I'll be here waiting. It's definitely hard!

 

[Deleted member 17302]

I understand where your coming from, I feel deep down that I've lost him but I can only trust the plan Go...

Someone I talked to today went through similar situation as we have and said just give some space but every few days or what not to just call or text with the message that you are there when they are ready to talk. Said they do get mad but after a while they will reach out. I'm going to wait a week and probably just send that simple text. Not begging or professing love but just that I'm here when she's ready to talk.

 

[Sweetpea76]

It is fine to send *a* text saying that you are there for your sufferer when and if they are ever ready to talk... But sending multiple messages is violating their boundaries. If somebody requests space or leaves, then sending multiple messages, even if they're spaced apart, is not respecting their wishes. That is no way to endear yourself to somebody you love. It demonstrates that you are more worried about your own feelings than theirs.

Honestly, in this situation, there is not much you can do except take care of yourself.

 

[Nox]

I agree with you, Cyanide, but I fear it is just "wishful thinking" ..

Sending a message of "I love you",...

My husband finds it helpful, to feel more secure/wanted in our relationship I think, when I send him little messages, just letting him know I am thinking of him, that I love him etc.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think it would help to know what a person finds helpful?

 

[nowthisisme]

Thank you for this thread. I recently started treating my PTSD, i was really good at ignoring it untill it caught up to me. I can relate to most of your points and i have never realized that i was acting this way because on my PTSD. thank you for clearfing it for me.

 

[In search of light]

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Hi is this general chat or just supporters chat?

 

[Sweetpea76]

The chat feature here is for the entire forum.

 

[In search of light]

I wasn’t sure if there was a seperate chat room for supporters only.
I have pc’d Nicolette but no response as of yet maybe she’s on vacation.

 

[Lostinlove4myvet]

EXACTLY the same thing for me!
I wasn't aware of this either. And I've done
Exactly the same for me! I actually JUST messaged him with simple thinking of you and hope your day was good. He never answers when I do. Now I know why and I need to learn to control my urges to message him in these times. I've always just thought it would be good for him to know that I'm thinking of him and I'm here..... I absolutely love this group! Thank you