Thinking Maybe It's Time To Move On

[Iam]

Things have been going so well lately. I still get triggered occasionally, but seem to handle it better.

Yesterday my mom called and started complaining that my grown sons never thank her for gifts, send B-day gifts or even B-day cards to her and that she is really hurt by it. It was an immediate trigger for me so I told her that I can't talk about that and needed to go. I then reminded myself that I had taught my boys to say thank you, send thank you notes and B-day cards. That they are now grown and it is no longer my responsibility. I then started working on photo shop as it is a new challenge that I am learning and am having a blast with. It didn't take long to start feeling really good again! This morning my mom left a voicemail saying that she was sorry she had upset me, that she shouldn't have brought up something that I have no control over and that she knows her grandsons love her. WOW, IT WORKED! All the way around, from standing up for myself, restructuring my thinking, distracting myself doing something I enjoy and gave me a sense of accomplishment to my mom actually getting it (not something that I will expect from anybody, but it was a nice plus!)

I think I have made a lot of progress though I know I will have set backs. I have found that I am on the forum less because I seem to need it less. You have all been such a help to me, encouraging, comforting and yes, tough when I've needed it. I am sure that it will take time to wean myself off as I love all of you, but the time is coming to move on. That is a good thing :D

 

[Philippa]

I didn't get to know you very well, but I think in this sort of context, it's a compliment when you can say "Ï'm glad you're leaving";) It means you can stand on your own two feet again, and that's the point of it all right?

Happy for you.

 

[Deleted member 5760]

Iam - I just wanted to take a moment to express how in awe I am of your journey.

I think you've been a wonderful example of 'to there and back'. Good on you. I salute you. If I'm ever in doubt that something can't be overcome I'll think of you and answer with 'yes it can'.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Lauren,

Congratulations on your progress. It is so wonderful to see someone work as hard as you have, and provide a positive example for all that have read your posts and followed your journey.

Wishing you the best and looking forward to your "visits":).

(((hugs)))
Deb

 

[cherryblossom]

It's so nice to hear of positive progress. Sincerely, well done. No matter what help and support you have received, you have done all the hard work, so give yourself a pat on the back.

The good thing about the forum, is that it's always here. Yes, for the most part people come and go, but the forum will be here to offer non-jugemental support if you ever need it/'us' in the future.

Take care of yourself.

 

[KP the nut]

((((Iam))))
Well done and congratulations.
As the vulcans say "Live long and prosper":)
Take care
KP

 

[Jade-]

I'm glad to hear you're doing so well. And I'm happy that you feel it's time to move on. You've come a long way since you joined this site.

Strange that you started this thread....I have been feeling the same way, but not exactly for the same reasons.I wish I was doing as well as you are...

I don't plan on leaving completely, yet, but I have been limiting my time here. When it gets to the point where it does more harm than good, it's time to back off. I feel so much better when I'm not here all the time. It's too easy to get caught up in other people and their problems and use it as a distraction from my own.....

Anyway, I'm glad we have been friends. Please pop in every now and then and keep us updated. You know my email, drop me a line sometimes....

 

[kers]

Iam, that's a great story.

 

[deer_in_headlights]

Dear Iam,

I've just started getting to know you, through your wonderful posts and pictures (your horses and goats make me melt).
I've wanted to ask you about you and your animals, and have been very much looking forward to learning about you and from you. You seem a kindred spirit...

I'm sad for me and for others who won't have the benefit of your knowledge, insights and friendship; but that is greatly overshadowed by my great joy for you!

I'm wishing you everything wonderful, and do hope you will "wean" slowly, and come visit often!
Congratulations!
Warmly,
Deer

 

[AdamAnt]

Will miss you Iam, Good Luck and God Bless in everything you do!

 

[Iam]

Thanks to all for your sincere well wishes :) I miss our teddy bear hug emoticon!

I am not leaving for good, just won't be on all the time like I used to be. As well as I am doing, I have no doubt that there will be setbacks especially when I start delving into the really tough stuff in EMDR. When those happen I will be here venting I am sure. LOL! I've had a nice break from that for the last 3 weeks. 15 months of therapy 1 or 2 times a week and I've never missed or been late for one session. I take that back...I sent my husband in my stead when I was in the hospital LOL ;o) It has been hard work and perhaps I just need a break to enjoy life and gather strength for a bit. I will still be lurking....don' think I could ever leave you guys completely ;)

The best thing will be to share what I find is working as things get better! I miss our blog section too. Curiouser always had the best uplifting, mind shifting blogs. Can we still do those and I just haven't figured out how?

Anyway, (((hugs))) and love to you all.

 

[deer_in_headlights]

Hooray, (((((((((Iam)))))))))!!!
Whew!!! Relief!!! ((((((((((Iam))))))))))!!!