This Is None Of My Business But.....

[Heather]

HLost - He probably would answer but it's none of my business. So, I haven't asked. Besides to much of my own crap is going on....

Thanks for your support:)

 

[Lucycat]

Last night, out of curiosity I told my T about this thread.

His response is that yes, a therapist is human. There should be a trusting relationship between T and client, and in his opinion, it would be perfectly acceptable to mention that you had noticed his absent wedding ring. He did say that the T would then have to decide whether or not he wished to discuss or explain. But he thought asking was not wrong.

I must say, I was surprised by this answer, it is not what I expeced him to say.

 

[Hlost]

Heather, you're welcome and seems you are well aware of your relationship and good on you for your decision, really :), plus understanding that you could ask if you wanted to, I think that's most important of all.

Rain

 

[Heather]

Last night, out of curiosity I told my T about this thread.
I must say, I was surprised by this answer, it is not what I expeced him to say.

Wow - Thanks lucy - that means a lot:). Maybe I'll ask him Monday. I don't feel like talking about my week anyway it's been horrific.. Our cat of 11yrs. had to be euthanized. He had intenstinal cancer and my heart is broken:cry::cry::cry::cry:. So, why not avoid my heartache and ask him.

 

[Lucycat]

Hi Heather, Yes I read about Blue on the other forum. The pictures there are great.
I know how much you are hurting. I love my 2 cats, Brucie & Lucy!

 

[Nyx]

So, why not avoid my heartache and ask him.

Because that's not what you're there for. You don't go to therapy to avoid heartache, you go to therapy to live what you've got to live and move on.

I'm so sorry about your cat, I can only imagine how painful it must be. But maybe your T can give you comfort with this or even give you the tools you need to bring yourself comfort. Talking about him instead will only cover up what you feel, it will not make it go away.

 

[kimba]

I am divided on this. I do know a few personal things about my T but where she is a woman, it doesn't bother me. Because of my past I don't think I could have a male T to begin with or if I did, it would be a long time before I trusted him enough to care whether he was having issues or not. That said his feelings because of his situation may affect his advice to patients so I would ask just so he is aware that I did notice and will be suspicious of any relationship advice because of it. Does this make sense?

 

[Heather]

I know Nyx I was actually kidding. I will probably discuss both. The cat definitely. I still miss him so much:cry:. I'm sobbing just typing about it. My poor boy... Oh, what have I done? My heart aches for him. I know Idid the right thihng but it doesn't make it any easier to deal with. I told the vet. I'd take his ashes but what am I supposed to do with them?

Any suggestions? I don't want to scatter them at sea? The idea of the fish eating them makes me ill. I miss him.

 

[Lucycat]

When I lost our previous cat I buried him in the garden and planted a special rose on the spot.
Maybe, if you have a garden you could do something like this . Bury the ashes and then mark the spot with something living that will, in time, make you smile when you look at it and think of him.

 

[jadebear]

I've known for awhile the boundaries have been blurred

Then is he the type of 'professional' you should be seeing? IDK, I just worry about other boundaries being crossed.

 

[Heather]

Then is he the type of 'professional' you should be seeing? IDK, I just worry about other boundaries being crossed.

No other boundaries are being crossed.