Those Who Don't Understand

[shadowchaser]

You hit that one right on the head. But as long as they put a main stream name on it then no one even considers looking at it as such.

We should start our own cult that does nothing more then point out the faults in followers of others lol.

 

[Srain]

Yes, was told by my younger brother (also severely abused by my father) to just 'get over it' and move on. This was when I was in the middle of the court case and I guess he was told he would be cut out of the Will. I was completely stunned. I love my brother very much and he meant everything to me but I knew he just couldn't handle anymore and I had to let him go to continue what I had to do, trusting in the future we would be able to get close again. It broke my heart. He got the money, I was cut out, he got closer to my older brother who had always denied what had happened. It took years but we are closer again.

Nothing simple about the decision, my heart has tears in it but I cannot be around people that tell me to 'just get over it' no matter who they are, even if they think it's for my or their own good.


Rain

 

[shadowchaser]

Far to many people out there refuse to educate themselves. In the process of this they harm those around them with their words and actions. Unfortunately this leave those who are injured by their actions to pick up the pieces and try to educate people who want to hear nothing of it.

I hate to say it but with what is going on with her kids it will be my aunt who suffers from her actions. If she tries to drill her logic and dogma into her son then he will push her away. I only hope she listens one day. Opens her eyes and sees the truth for what it is. With my abuser still so close to the family I doubt that it will happen but that doesn't mean I give up hope.

 

[blwnawy]

I can fully understand where you're coming from.
This has been the only thing I feel I've been a little successful with thus far, if I could call it that.
I had a lot of trouble at the beginning. I found I was wearing myself out taking it on board, almost as an insult & trying to explain to everyone.

My T sorted me out on this one, by boiling it down to WHY, it doesn't matter what they say or think.
Still gets at me sometimes and I know I am not totally past it, but I've brought it down to really only three people in my life that I make an effort to explain things to, my T doc, my T & my wife.
The rest if they don't want to try and understand can go... I load it back on them is their loss.(maybe different being a, wish I didn't have to say it- bloke:rolleyes:).

Then again I could quite easily leave everyone behind & become a hermit, just the two of us in a cabin on a white sandy beach somewhere........ where was I up to,

That's what I like so much about this site you can come here in the security of your own home and talk to people who get where you're at without explaining, a real comfort I feel and the sense of maybe belonging somewhere still.
Even if broken a little.