people don't understand I can't be social

[Francessca]

I got invited by my sister and friend to go to a dinner. That's 2 different events. They know what's happened in my past. They also know I have cptsd.
I think people don't understand thar cptsd is a complex psychological illness. And it doesn't have a guide book that we or other people can follow.
In the past I lived in a communion. Now 1 person is more than enough for an hour. I go to them, so I have the control .
How do I make them understand that cptsd is not just a cold? And that the Nile is a very long river?

Hey Thursday,

I am in the same boat, I am trying so hard to stay social so I end up masking and further disassociating. I don't want to become isolated and it feels like my boundaries with CPTSD are heading towards being alone. I do think letting them know you are greatful that they thought of you is a great shout. Maybe try inviting them on your terms to things you're comfortable with? I have no answer for why people cannot see it as a serious condition. I am 'high functioning' according to my doctor because I mask a lot. I am not quite sure what that means but maybe you are too?

 

[thursday]

Hey Thursday,

I am in the same boat, I am trying so hard to stay social so I end up masking and further disassociating. I don't want to become isolated and it feels like my boundaries with CPTSD are heading towards being alone. I do think letting them know you are greatful that they thought of you is a great shout. Maybe try inviting them on your terms to things you're comfortable with? I have no answer for why people cannot see it as a serious condition. I am 'high functioning' according to my doctor because I mask a lot. I am not quite sure what that means but maybe you are too?

Not so long ago I was together with at least one imaginary friend. This began at the age of 12. First there were teachers and I played (in my mind) that there was a boy who had problems at home. Something totally different than what going on in reality. Later the teachers became celebrities. They went with me, so could handle most things in live. But like the wall in Berlin, this technic has crumbled.
Today my friend and I spend some time together with the two of us. This went well.

 

[Starfish]

hello thursday. welcome to the forum. sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

personally, i don't see much value in other people understanding. it's a tasty treat when it happens, but healing is an inside job. only i can do it for me and it is **my** understanding which must lead the way. other people? ? ? those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter.

meanwhile, it helps me on my healing journey to have places like this one where folks have some insider clues. hope it helps you, too.

welcome aboard.

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