Tired Of Negative People

[Tim &Bailey]

I think as of today I am done with facebook. A good friend of mine posted how bad people suck and in 5 min had 38 likes and 30 comments.​

I'm tired of hearing people suck. We are all created in Gods own image. Seems there are a bunch who have forgotten that. The trouble is people have a real hard time excepting one and other for their faults as well as their strengths. If people keep crapping on you, maybe it is you who needs to pick better friends to surround yourself with. You and only you can set what you will and will not accept in your life. When someone is having a bad day try to lift their spirits not pound them lower into the dirt.​

I just wanted all my brothers and sisters on here to know I appreciate you, I value you. You have made a difference in mine and my families life and for that i cherish our friendship. On days like today especially when I have only slept about two hours I look forward to comming in here and getting some positive thoughts and prayers. May God bless and keep you all.​

Tim & Bailey ​

 

[Redheaded Stranger]

Well said Tim & Bailey. God's blessing on you and your family.

 

[sisu]

I agree!! So much negativity is exhausting. It feels good to me when I am encouraging and being a good friend to others. And it feels good when friends are there when I need them.

I like that movie "Pay it Forward"....in the beginning he was doing all sorts of nice things for others with nothing happening. Soon others began to "get it" and pay their good deeds forward. I try to think that way, however it is hard sometimes. But I find that when I do "pay it forward" and do a kind thing for someone it makes such a difference in my life in a positive way. And I have even had a suprise myself a few times....waiting in the Starbucks line to get my coffee and finding out the car in front of me paid for my coffee.

You are awesome Tim & Bailey!!

 

[deborah l. boylan]

I'm finding out that there are good and bad people everywhere. If all you want to see is the bad then that is what you will find. Of course, sometimes thats the depression and ptsd talking. Reading about what everyone else is dealing with has made me realize that I'm not alone out here anymore. The people on this site have made me feel welcome and accepted and for that I am truly thankful. Tim and Bailey, you are wonderful! And that goes for the rest of you guys too!

 

[Jimmy1]

How do you convince your children of that.
I use Facebook to communicate and share photo's with my daughter, and sons in other parts of the state and also my siblings in other states.

But the negativeness surrounding it is shocking.

Kids take it to heart what people say. There have even been threats made against peoples lives over here.

I was talking to a Police Officer and they said that Facebook is based in Canada and is therefore difficult to police.

Us with the dreaded beast PTSD are like sponges for everything though. Whether it be anger, stress and even negative people

 

[Mockingbird13]

I work at a High School - and it is sad to see all of the negativity that flows out of the students mouths as well as their posts on facebook - but as in everything there is good. Not all of my students are like that, there are many good ones (but the negative ones get most of the attention).

Seriously- Look at our media what is the #1 story that breaks through - a murder, a rape ..etc that gets priority. Now the stories of a kid that overcomes his handicap, or a business that helps the homeless...um gets shoved in the back.

Is this our worlds way of saying Look at me and the bad thing I did, when it really is saying - I need help ?

 

[Charon]

I tend to be a pretty negative person, not in that "hey let me piss in your Cheerios" kind of way but more like I can't help but see how crappy things are and I always have to point out shortcomings in movies or shows. Its something I really hate about myself and I know it can make me a wet blanket. Like I can't help but go outside and see all the litter. Maybe we're just talking about people who are negative towards other people here, which I don't really do. I don't know.

But recently my girl and I were walking in the park near our apartment and this kind of pudgy guy was walking in front of us with his iPod on. Some kids drove by and one of them stuck his head out the window and yelled at the guy, "You gotta walk a lot faster than that to lose weight fat ass!"

God I wanted to smash his face in after I realized what he said. I used to be a fat kid but lost all my weight in my late teens after I made a few changes and took up wrestling and jiu-jitsu. I always feel really inspired/proud/supportive I dunno whenever I see overweight people working out. I want to give 'em a pat on the back and say, "way to go man, you'll get there" because I know how horrible it is being overweight and how awful people can be towards you.

I was pretty livid about these kids. I really couldn't get it out of my head and for the next half a mile all I could keep thinking was, "those gd m-fers". My girl tried to get me to not think about it and I reluctantly stopped bitching after realizing I was messing up her nice day out walking by being so mad. I still kept thinking about what I would do if I found those a-holes though.

Later we passed four kids coming the other way all soaking wet (no idea why) but my girl noticed their wet footprints across the road and I saw that they led back to the same white car with a missing hubcap as the one that passed us earlier. All I can say is that if my girl weren't there, I would have let all the air out of their tires, kicked off their side mirrors and probably smashed their rear window. And I probably would have broken a few arms and legs if they somehow caught me doing this.

Its juvenile I know, but God, I HATE it when people just piss on someone trying to do something positive like that guy. Its stupid and I probably shouldn't be so mad, but it still pisses me off.

 

[Mockingbird13]

Charon,

Yes - that sucks, its mean , its cruel, childish etc. - This might sound strange, but maybe there was a reason your little girl was with you through this (bessides keeping you at bay) , because myself and my daughter have been through similar situations directed towards her. My daughter will see that Im angry, and then I explain to her why - I also use that moment to tell her, do you see how that feels , those words, or actions - Dont cause that pain to someone else.... when she was younger it was a great tool, because she would remember the kid who was mocked or how she felt when others made fun of her...and thankfully she has a big heart and she knows she does not want to make people feel how badly she felt .

Sadly this behavior is all around us - it makes them feel better - but you know, I believe in Karma, and eventually they will get theirs in the end.

 

[Steph_F]

MB13, I think he was taking about his girlfriend LoL but what you say is totally true! I practice, or try to practice the same thing with my daughters daily.

Charon, you controlled that anger. Good job! No one but you can ever know how difficult that was, but it pisses me right off just reading it! You also put your girlfriend's nice walk in front of your rage and hurt. That speaks volumes! It sounds funny to congratulate someone on NOT smashing the shit out of a car or some dumb punks, but congrats! Well done!

 

[Charon]

MB13, I think he was taking about his girlfriend LoL but what you say is totally true! I practice, or try to practice the same thing with my daughters daily.

Heh heh, yeah sorry it was my girlfriend lol. No little ones yet so far thank goodness. No way I could handle that with school. Thanks for the good words though, I appreciate it.

I don't get the negativity though from kids, and maybe its a generational thing, I really don't know, even though I'm just 30. People aren't so much negative on facebook (just a lot of pseudo friends on there for me) but I sometimes check out videos people put together on youtube and 9 times out of 10 someone is saying, "you suck" on it or "this sucks". My girlfriend's niece is 12 and practically everything in the world is "stupid" or "it sucks". This from a girl whose grammar is so bad she spells "you" "yoo".

I guess that's why I've always liked sports, and by that I mean Olympic sports and combat sports like boxing and wrestling. I love the Olympics, I mean sure everyone goes there representing their nation, but everyone tends to end up congratulating each other on their win and their efforts. Like those German guys who came out in the '36 Olympics to give Jesse Owens props. Athletics offer a way for people to forget about all the b.s. and be sportsmen and women by praising their efforts. Fans unfortunately love to hear trash talk and nothing bothers fight promoters more than a fighter with a lot of class who says, "I think he's a very tough opponent and I think it'll be a great match" versus "I think he's a bleep bleep bleep who can't bleepity bleep".

 

[Steph_F]

You are right, I think the world is packed with negativity and nay-sayers. I also agree with you about the sports thing, and I am very happy that in school sports there is a huge push for parents to encourage good sportsmanship. Hopefully that will stick with the kids as they grow into adulthood. I try to have my girls show good sportsmanship by pointing it out to them when we see it, like a buddy of my boyfriend's who also races cars, Ross rolls up to give a thumb-ups to every winner of each race he's in. I applaude that! Last Sat. at my 2nd graders soccer game, it was very very hot and the girls were a bit whining and distracted by playing with the ice in the coolers and dumping water on each other rather than playing. As the assistant coach, I let it go for the most part, I mean kids will be kids, right? Then I noticed that while my girls were begging for a sub, the other team didn't have any subs and those girls were running the whole game. At the end of the game, after shaking hands, I had my team clap for those girls and then all the parents on our side joined in and then we dretched the girls with the rest of our water! It was awesome! I was really really proud of those other girls. The main coach scolds me all the time about cheering on our opponents, but I figured what the hell? these are 7 and 8 year olds, learning the sport of soccer, and when they do well or need a pointer, why not?? I even do it for pro teams...I mean, I am NOT a huge fan of Kobe Bryant (as a person, at all) but when he plays well, he plays well and it should be regcognized.

As far as you being a negative-nancy...knock it off! haha! kidding...when you go outside and you see litter, why not pick up a peice (a non-yucky peice) so that the next person doesn't have to look at it? Might not feel like you are making a difference, but imagine if everyone did the same thing? Do the whole count your blessings thing...every hour on the hour, be thankful for one thing that you have in your life...even if you are having such a crappy day that all you can be thankful for is that you have not ripped the head off of some stupid moron. I know its pretty Pollyanna of me to say this, but I'm glad and thankful for YOU, because I would not give you advice that I myself won't try to follow so as of 9am this morning I am thankful for my kids to teach. You? :) Good luck buddy!

 

[Mockingbird13]

Ok Charon, my bad on that...but you get what I was saying.

Sports are great- I coach swim and waterpolo boys and girls at the High school level and the first thing I start with is the teamwork thing and all - thankfully I havent seen to much in the water sports, but Football and Soccer its a different story many parents act like such idiots - its embarrassing yelling things to the other team that is just not right - Im all for team spirit and such, but its not an excuse do be hurtful -

One of my pet peaves is when a parent will pull their kid aside and chew them out for losing or for not playing well -UGH. Because of this I dont allow parents to my practices because sometimes (a few not all) will see somebody doing better then their kid and then they get in their kids face and say why cant you be like them - blah blah blah...... It just destroys the kid - also when the kid really does not want to do that sport but their parents want them too.

One thing I have learned and have done and I hope all that I have coached have learend from this is when we are ahead in a game - and I can see we already have the victory, and the other team does not have a chance - I will not let my team run up the score...I mean Why ???? this has happened a few times and I have actually told them not to score because a win is a win - you dont have to demolish the other team by beating them by lets say 20 pts. - ahh but that is just me

Steph - I agree less negativity must begin with us..... and Charon, yes kids now seem to have more negativity than ever, but where do you think they learned it from ????

Have a great day everyone !! :D