To Go Or Not To Go

[Crow]

My mom went back in the hospital last night. I went down two weeks ago when she was in icu. The five hour drive each way kicked my butt....not to mention being around my family of origin. I missed a lot of work the following week and got a talking to by management.

The doc is considering a pacemaker. Family whatever dictates I should be in the hospital during surgery and at least a day after. I cannot do it. I know I'll be perceived as an uncaring bitch, but I really don't care....and I do. Ugh!

I can't miss work. I can't afford to not get paid. Then there's the petsitting issue. And then there's the self preservation issue.

Again, ugh!

 

[Theresa1122]

You have to do what's best for you! I don't know why you would have to be there. If you sign the paperwork for permission for the doctors to install the pacemaker, you shouldn't have to be present. If this will hurt you mentally, physically, financially, etc. - you have to think of you. This does NOT make you uncaring at all. Sometimes we need to be selfish in the form of taking care of ourselves.