Too Ashamed To Tell T

[zoie33]

How do I work up the nerve to tell my therapist that I self harm through masturbation? I would rather avoid the issue altogether but it is been getting worse over the past few weeks.I have no idea why I do this I do not remember any child sexual abuse.

 

[Snowflakes]

@zoie33 Reading your past threads....you said you look at your therapist as a teacher, and you are a teacher. Perhaps the struggle is this may not be something you would be comfortable sharing with a peer. I know, in my case, there are some things I have been hesitant to tell my therapist.....I guess we all subconsciously wonder what they might think about us. I have since learned 2 things....one, she has heard it all before; second, I've learned to trust that she really wants to help me.

Take care.

 

[Rumors]

Maybe just start by saying you self harm? I am not sure the details mean as much as the overall picture. If you feel the need to disclose more you could simply say it is of a sexual nature and leave it.
I think you need to tell though. It clearly is something that you are struggling with and you could use some support. Really sorry this is going on for you right now.. Hang in there.

 

[zoie33]

I guess my problem is he asked me last time if I self harm and I basically said no. I didn't realize until this weekend that what I do actually is self-harming so now I have to basically tell him I lied. That's part of this struggle besides the embarrassment.

 

[Suzetig]

I doubt he'll see it as you having lied - people share things in therapy at different rates and you hadn't recognised it yourself so I wouldn't worry about him thinking less of you. There are loads of things I've half mentioned, denied or just refused to speak about - and an issue i felt I had lied about in T but it's always been open for be to revisit things throughout therapy.

It sounds like you're in early stages of therapy and it may just feel too soon for you to share, or you may be ready to talk about it. Don't worry about him thinking you've lied, it'll be fine.