Too many tears?

[Justmehere]

How do you know when you are crying too much?

I’m depressed, I know it. Meds are an option I’m going to see my doctor about. I’m extremely reluctant because of a rare and dangerous side effect I had the last time I was on an SSRI.

I can fight through the depression symptoms except the crying. I’m teary at the drop of a hat. My therapist is a little worried. I cried in front of a friend today that I knew couldn’t hack it. He tried though. Kudos to him. I hate hate hate crying let alone anyone seeing me cry.

I have used every coping tool I can, but the test. I hate crying, and I’m trying to be ok with it, but it’s a bit much? I had a presentation tonight and went with red eyes. I’m trying to not feel humiliated.

 

[Sideways]

I get the embarrassment, but if it helps at all? Everyone cries. You’re human. You and where you are right now in your recovery? It’s a complete package. It’s okay to not present the warrior front all the time.

This will pass. You and your T will find a way through this. In the meantime? I find that sleeping on an extra pillow helps me breathe better during the night when I’m congested from crying all day - you’re not alone.

 

[Justmehere]

Thanks @Sideways, especially for the reminder that this too shall pass.

I talked to my therapist today. Today was another day of trying to hide tears. She said to hold off on meds. My last experience on meds was traumatic. She said hang on through, thus depression has popped up March and gotten better by May the past two years.

She said to try to connect to any underlying anger... and thinks that is fueling this. Argh. I rather cry!

Can’t win for losing. Lol.

I think I need to google ways to hide red eyes.

 

[mumstheword]

I wear sunglasses a lot now. I'm a crier:cry:, but it's not as bad as previous years for me I think I've got a huge amount of the pent up grief and sadness and long-term depression out of my system. TRE helped as well.

Having said that, a friend of mine took his life just a couple of weeks ago and left me with his girlfriend, my bestie, to take care of. I'm very upset and angry at the moment.

Depression like I used to have is revisiting. I actually welcome the tears when they come, because they feel better than the bereftness and grief and hurt that accompanies the angry moods. I totally relate to you on that one.:meh:

I'm feeling the sense of powerlessness that is so deep-seated, tears are better, at least they are movement and release. I just take a pair of reflective, pale pink sunnies with me if my eyes are too revealing. It's such a tool, the sunglasses, that I have conquored walking down the main street of my village without such extreme discomfort and wanting to bolt. Yay!:cool:

((((((Hugs)))))) @Justmehere .:hug:

 

[Sweetleaf]

I always feel like when I'm crying, it's because my body needs it, and sometimes it has needed it quite a lot.

There have been times where I cried so easily, cried at everything, cried so much. I would be on my hands and knees, tears literally dripping from my glasses, little pools of tears built up on the lenses. Noticing that made me even sadder, so I would take them off.

It is hard to go around your life, with red eyes. It's hard to go around, and have a hair trigger on your crying reflex, when you just want to hold it together, and need to hold it together.

It happens, it's natural, it's okay that you're crying so much, you just need help to not feel so sad, whatever that help may be.

A way to hide red eyes that has worked for me, is to splash cold water on them. It helps make the redness go down, and I think just helps the swelling in the eye region to kinda decrease, though it's of course not going to bring you to 100% normal looking.

Maybe eye drops for redness? That will cause the blood vessels to shrink back up to normal. I will say a word of caution though, that I learned from experience: using eye drops too much can cause your eyes to start being red if you don't use them. At least, that is what happened to me when I used them too much for a while. After that, I kinda just stopped using them forever, and came across the cold water trick.

Good luck with fixing your depression. I've been struggling with it myself lately, though the past days I had a brief reprieve from really feeling it. Still hurts, but doesn't make me want to hurt myself. It reminded me that things -can- be better, and I can feel my grief and pain and sorrow and loss, without it making me want to end myself, and without it dragging me down too far. I hope it doesn't return, we shall see.

 

[Elmez]

Crying. I seem to have forgotten how. Would it be indicative of the level/depth of symptoms one has? What do you guys think?