Trans, nb, queer and intersex folks - welcome!

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

Heyo pansexual gender queer here. They/them with do. But I honestly don’t mind about my pronouns.

 

[Swift]

Welcome @NoWhereKnowWhere, glad to have you here. Swift, she/her, queer and genderqueer.

 

[bellbird]

I keep misreading genderqueer as genderqueen, but either way you're all fabulous?

 

[Swift]

Haha @bellbird I love that.

Just for you folks who are interested - @joeylittle and I have started a group called Queer, Questioning, Trans and Trauma or QQTT. @digger and I will be moderating.

This thread will stay open, I ask that non-queer members of the community keep their questions here instead of in the group.

Only you know if the group is the right fit for you or not - we're vetting people based on their activity on the forum and how well-known they are in the forum, not how Queer they are or have seemed to be. Membership is public, so if you're not keen on being outed on this forum here, please don't sign up.

 

[Fadeaway]

Another ally here. Forget the bell curve, I see gender more like this. Take a ball it 2 ruberbands around it so that they intersect at the top bottom and sides forming a cross. The places where the rubber bands meet is sociatal definitions on gender but a person's true gender can fall anywhere on the surface of the ball.

 

[bellbird]

Question: Do trans-folk prefer to be referred to as trans-M/F, or simply M/F?

 

[DharmaGirl]

I always referred to my Trans female friend as she. I never thought about anything but her being a girl.

 

[Muttly]

@bellbird While there may be exceptions, I think the majority of trans folks are going to prefer simply being referred to as their preferred pronoun. While there are contexts where identifying myself as trans-man is important, they are the exception. In general, I want to be seen and thought of as a man. In general I am going to identify myself as trans only if the "trans" is relevant in some way, like in this thread.

 

[bellbird]

Absolutely, I had thought as such but thanks for the clarification :)

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Hi I´m Rad and I identify as Rad.

Technically quite a few letters in the whole LGBTQ umbrella describe me, but I identify with none of them.
For me they are terms to indicate aspects of who I am.

I would never put the LGBTQ description take precedence over other aspects of my personality, like say I´m stubborn, and inquisitive and sometimes annoying.

But I do understand that others can adhere (more) importance to it and that´s okay.
I just thought I would add to the conversation, given my perspective on the issue.

 

[Freida]

soooo.... I was with a very conservative friend who is about my age and got to talking about the whole lbgtq thing and how to try to wrap our minds around it.

First, yep -- I totally screwed up the explanations you all have taught me because...well.... it's a lot to try to remember. And I do mean totally. So then she tried to figure it out, and I tried to clarify and it just got funnier and funnier because I was so BAD at trying to remember what meant what and who and all that. Y'know, kind of like the posts I've had on here where I keep saying ....HUH?

At the end she shocked the crap out of me. I would have thought that she would condemn the whole thing but she didn't. She said -- Why are we all so wrapped up in who has sex with who? As long as they are decent human beings in consensual adult relationships I don't care what they do with their genitalia

Wow. Did. Not. Expect. That

The world may finally be catching up --- yay! :hug:

 

[Ronin]

First, yep -- I totally screwed up the explanations you all have taught me

:D This was so bloody sweet, just sayin.

Nah, not screwing anything at all. Trying your damnedest.
... where is that A+Ally gold star I am supposed to hand you and all, so understocked on stars, for stars.