I trust the wrong people. Over and Over again.
It got me gang raped.
Trusting people did not get you gang raped. The perpetrators of the rape got you gang raped. They are the only people who share the blame. It was not your fault.
I think it's very true that people need to earn our trust. I'm pretty sure most people have been hurt by someone they trusted. Unfortunately 'we', as survivors, have been violated in the worst way possible. Which makes it even harder than the average person, to trust others. But trusting someone again, can be done. It can be re-learnt. Isolation is not good for us - we think it, because then no-one can hurt us. But squeak is right
A majority of people can't survive without human contact. Humans are social creatures and unfortunately we need one another.:rolleyes:
Breaking that isolation and re-learning trust starts small. It starts with general chatting. Even if it's just with the cashier in the local shop. Say hello, smile, ask them how they are. Take an interest in things, so that you have something to talk about, it doesn't have to be anything major, maybe something you read in a newspaper, or the terrible weather, or the beautiful flowers that have just bloomed in your garden. Just talk to people, you meet day to day. If you work, spend an extra minute or so chatting with your colleagues. If in doubt as to what to say, ask them how they are, or how their kids are doing. I know it might sound silly, but we can isolate ourselves so much, that we forget how to have conversation with people. Smile, people are more likely to respond. As your confidence grows perhaps you can enrol in something, like an education class, or cooking class, a local volunteer scheme.
Yes, you may well meet a few grumpy, or dodgy people along the way, but you will no doubt meet some nice people too. Unless you give it a go you will never know!!
