Trying to shake off another sufferer’s suicidal emotional blackmail

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Rosebud

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Yikes @Justmehere I can't read this all but it sounds bizarre. Hugs to you.

Ps, when I hear people tell me 'how' they're stopping living, I tend to find myself following suit (eg not eating). Try to know you're right to care for yourself. :hug::hug::hug: xox
 

Justmehere

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Ugh. The person found out about a BBQ at my friend’s house, showed up at my friend’s house after it started, while everyone was sitting down eating, walked in and immediately announced, “so I’m just standing here awkwardly.” And she was just standing there awkwardly.

One friend whispered to another friend sitting next to me, something about if they were invited or not, and the home owners and someone else walked the sufferer out of the area I was in, and I don’t know what happened... but the sufferer didn’t stay. They were actually invited but didn’t rsvp, but neither did others, and they stayed... so I don’t know what changed for this person... and why they were gently escorted out.

I feel terrible watching this all play out. I’m trying to remember the old saying, “not my monkeys, not my circus.”

It is still hard to watch this all happen. :(
 

Friday

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Natural consequences. When someone uses people & hurts people? Healthy people don't just sweep that under the rug, pretend nothing ever happened, and allow them to continue using & hurting people. They show them the door.

This is watching the cycle of abuse never get up off the ground, first person.

It sounds like you've got good friends.
 

Justmehere

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This is watching the cycle of abuse never get up off the ground, first person.

It sounds like you've got good friends.
Ya know, you are right. It’s been so painful to watch this person manipulate everyone around me, and then predictably set bridges on FIRE, and then when that wasn’t enough, to dump gasoline on the blaze...

But maybe my focus is in the wrong spot. When she walked in, I just cringed, thinking, “oh God, here we go.” But my previously easily manipulated friends didn’t take the bait. They held a solid boundary. They didn’t publically slam her or make it a big drama for others either. They are new to much of this — we recently had a conversation about what is “triangulation” and why to avoid it being part of it... They had so many “but why would that be wrong?” questions that I was a little worried... ok, I was actually really worried.

I do wonder why they invited her and if they expected this to work out well... and what happened there... But that’s where it stops being my business... because um, triangulation is bad. Lol. It was their home, their party, and she did walk in quite dramatically and tossed another match, trying to manipulate people into immediately jumping to her rescue...again...

But this time, they did this well.

They are good friends. :) Kudos to them. :)
 
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