General Trying To Stay Calm

[BrokenWoman]

I haven't heard from my combat veteran since last Sunday. I know he would never committ suicide so that's not a worry but I guess you start to freak a little and think "omg what if he never comes back". He's isolated before and deep down I know he'd never just "poof" dissapear like that in fact he promised never to do that. It goes against everything I know about him and his values but it's really hard to keep telling myself not to panic and keep cool and not cry or grieve.

 

[Deleted member 19804]

I'm so sorry you're suffering like this. I can imagine this must be an absolutely heartbreaking situation.
Is there any way you can contact him? Even if he doesn't want to talk, he could at least send you a text or an e-mail to let you know he's okay. Especially since he has promised you he wouldn't disappear like this.

You shouldn't have to deal with this all on your own. Can you call a friend or family member for support? Maybe someone can also stay with you for a while.

I hope you'll hear from him soon. Please take care of yourself. Hugs if you accept them.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

I often wonder who has it worse. Sufferers or care-ers. My care-ers have said they h ave PTSD from me. One said that I was like a cancer.......one day I am OK the next like hell. .

It makes me sad.

I am sorry you are going through this but i sure wish I had a nice care-er. The two I let in tried to punch it out of m e.

 

[Ronin]

Do you happen to have a contact info of anyone of the people he might trust with himself, or have gone to?

 

[BrokenWoman]

Well this isn't the longest he's isolated from me. It's usually somewhere around 7-9 days but that's rare. One can't help but think "okay did I do or say something wrong ?" I keep thinking back and I mean I could tell he wasn't himself. It just makes you panic a little and think he's numbed himself to you and he's gone forever. Even though in trying to be rational I don't really believe that. I tell myself to calm down and when he gets himself together I will hear from him just like always.

@Cashew No I don't have anyone's number to call and check on him. His buddy would let me know if he was hurt or worse though.

@Pakadlangitok I am so sorry to hear that you were referred to as cancer that is just terrible and very hurtful. Actually hurts my heart to even read that. I don't look at my sufferer like that at all. As far as not knowing who has it worse a sufferer or carer, well for me I believe my sufferer has it worse. I miss him and am scared to lose him but I can't imagine what he goes through. He's expressed it to me his last isolation to a degree. However I could never fully understand the true depth of it.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

I am sorry you are hurting. Not knowing how someone is that you care deeply for is very painful. I wonder if he is going through a particularly painful moment in time and he knows it will pass. But while he is going through it, he needs all of his energy to concentrate on himself without having to worry about others. He doesn't have the energy to give to anyone but himself. He will be back when he is done taking care of himself and has the energy to give to others. Blessings to you.

 

[Megara]

I haven't heard from my combat veteran since last Sunday. I know he would never committ suicide so...

My combat veteran also disappears from me sometimes. It's painful and worrisome. In most cases, it's not anything we did wrong. They just need their space sometimes. My vet explained to me how he doesn't know all of his triggers and never will. Finding a new trigger is one of the things that sets him into isolation, although he can't talk about them. Life is so overwhelming. ^^crc53liamt made a very good point. It's a good sign that you really believe he's not gone forever and you'll hear from him.
Good luck and hugs!

 

[BrokenWoman]

Guess who called at 5am this morning? Yep! We have this corny saying that we do. I am a completely cheesy romantic and my vet of course is very sweet and romantic too but it's just easier for me to express. So he calls and says " hey hope your good" and I say "high 5?" Which is a silly joke we have about when he just wasn't feeling too cuddly and I told him that anytime he wasn't up to touching me I would just high 5 him and it means "I love you". Haha so our cheesy thing together...but he's back! Thanks for listening!

 

[Deleted member 34535]

I am very happy for both of you! High Fives and blessings to you and your Vet.