Relationship Trying to Stay Sane Alone

[Pippi427]

SOOOOOOO....I had a very interesting development in my issue with L. Last night I was contacted on social media by a woman who dated L. AT THE SAME TIME I DID. This really happened and I met the girl in person.

He met her the same way I did. She looks just like me (red hair and tattooed). She was living in a hotel after getting out of a bad relationship before she met him. He really left her in a bad situation. You can tell he never had any intention now of taking any relationship to the next step. He would get close to both of us, then completely ghost when the relationship got close. He did the same thing to her.

I am beyond flabbergasted now. I had always said I would support his PTSD as long as he wasn't on drugs or cheating and he was CHEATING. I am not ok with this. It is a clear overstep of my boundaries. I am still deciding if I want to address this with him. I'm sure it won't get the reaction I want, but I do think it would be good for me to tell him what I know now.

I can't believe he took advantage of my kind nature and good heart like this. But it really does help knowing I'm not the only one.

 

[HopefulD]

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this kind of sh*t show. This really p*sses me off because he made the choice to lie and cheat then run. On BOTH of you. Which requires planning and hiding things from you both. Which is UNACCEPTABLE. PTSD is no excuse for this. NO EXCUSE.

 

[Pippi427]

I know why his ex wife refuses to even speak to him now

 

[Sweetpea76]

What. A. Dickhole!

 

[Pippi427]

OMG...on a hunch I decided to create a profile on Plenty of Fish that he would search for and I found him. I messaged him and told him I knew what he did and I met the other girl. I bet he nearly shit his pants. NOW he wants to talk. Isolation SMISOLATION. I really want to beat him up. He may be a combat vet, but in no world is this OK. This took planning.

 

[EveHarrington]

IDK if you two were intimate, but if so, please get yourself tested. Who knows, this other woman might not have been the only other one!

No, it wasn’t isolation. :-(

 

[Sweetpea76]

Honey, I know a lot of active duty and vets... and trust me, being a vet doesn't guarantee honor. They're people just like the rest of us, and some of them are skirt chasing asswipes.

 

[PreciousChild]

Just sorry. You spent all of that time and energy trying to figure out what happened, and then this. That is so freakin' hurtful.

 

[Pippi427]

Thanks for the reminder to get tested. I will.

 

[Pippi427]

Just sorry. You spent all of that time and energy trying to figure out what happened, and then this. That is so freakin' hurtful.

He apologized and self-depreciated. Typical. I told him he was not sorry and would do it again.

 

[Pippi427]

Apparently he's "Sorry I got so low"

So would any thinking, feeling human being affected by the dishonor you did to me.

 

[somerandomguy]

Jesus, this was already bad and took a much worse turn.

I'm so sorry @Pippi427. What an asshole.