Twice a week?

[Sandstone]

I'm still undecided.

How can I tell if I'm avoiding - not wanting to face pain and doubt and self questioning more than once a week, not wanting to build one of these relationship things with my T - or wanting to seize the chance to enlarge my life with things I've been too afraid to do until now?
I wish i trusted any of my thoughts, and I wish I could get them to stay facing the same way.

Is there anything interesting/good to do in the city where T is?

The idea evokes fear and some panic. It may be a small city, but it is so much busier than my tiny rural village or local town.

 

[Abstract]

Why not try it out and plan that with her? You could try it for 3 weeks then discuss it together. I suspect what works best is different for different people. I am too independent and can't trust. Struggle to discuss what I need to. Therapy more often holds the door open more so to speak. It keeps the the bookmark in place so that I can move faster. It also lets me allow some help in processing. Not my natural tendency. It is obviously important to stage what you are doing in those sessions. I like the idea of using the trip to do something enjoyable before. What about something en route outside the city? Or close to your t.

Not easy to get anything from the NHS so my inclination would be to accept and you can always change your mind. Before they do.

Go with your instincts though. We are all different. So very pleased for you that you are getting somewhere though. Well done as you made this happen.

 

[Sandstone]

Update - I'm still undecided, and very relieved to find that my T is too. We agreed that if I lived half an hour away then twice a week would unquestionably be the way ahead.

She has gone away to consider the slight possibility that we could meet somewhere closer on one of the two days and charge for her travelling time, and the two stronger possibilities of staying as we are for now or trying two separate hours on the same day. Has anyone tried two sessions in one day?

 

[digger]

trying two separate hours on the same day

Sorry if you've already considered this, but would a two hour session (rather than two separate one hour sessions) be an option? Is there a reason why it's two separate sessions is the preference?

 

[joeylittle]

Has anyone tried two sessions in one day?

Yes. I found there wasn't anything more useful about it than just doing a 2-hour session. The times it was a bit more productive were when my T would give me some homework to do in-between. Then, having a few hours to myself to do whatever reflecting, thinking, thought-organizing, etc., was good, because it kept the continuity going better than going away for a few days and coming back to that same topic.