Upset. Brought a part into therapy and backfired. Not sure how to move forward?

[beaneeboo]

What a protective role! I wonder what was happening in your world that caused this part to deny ur reality so much. I wonder if there was some safety or sanity in denying your reality or continually questioning yourself? I wonder if there were people in your outside world who required or pressured you to not have your reality? I wonder how your sanity, health, safety or relationships might have suffered if this part hadn't shown up? I wonder how hard and long this part has had to work? I wonder how old it is?


Hope these wondering help. Take them slowly and gently towards that part x

The truth is I'm also wondering all these things too...

I also wonder how I'm supposed to find out the answers to these questions ... I don't know what taking them slowly or gently towards that part looks like...I can't converse with this part...if I try to talk about things over them they (it / he?) get pretty vitriolic... bring me right down - there's an anger and a violence there... 3 is there as the keeper of the bridge... no way they will let me get past it.

Not sure how conversing with a part who wants to shut me up could ever work.

Thankyou for your reflections and wonderings. They are helpful 🙏

 

[scout86]

I also wonder how I'm supposed to find out the answers to these questions ...

Have you talked about this with your T? If they're into the "parts" way of looking at things, they probably have some ideas.