Very Triggered

[lilstar]

I've been triggered all day. I went out last night and this guy got alittle carried away, and wouldn't take no for an answer. He pinned me up against the wall, being quite forceful with me. Until the bouncer came dragged him off and chucked him out.
So now i've been left having flashbacks all day :-(
I hate this so much.

 

[Iam]

Oh that is awful lilstar. I am so sorry. No wonder you are having flashbacks. Somebody should castrate that guy. Do you know how to do grounding or mindfullness exercises to keep yourself in the present? That might help you get thru this crap today.

 

[lilstar]

Yes, i've been working on grounding myself all day. I'm just curled up in a big fleece blanket. It's seems to help abit.

 

[Artista]

oh lilstar... some animals don't know when to crawl back to their hole until they can respect others. I'm sorry you had to deal with this. Glad it couldn't progress further. Be kind to you and remember your strength. Never let those monsters win. Sounds like one of those.."add alcohol, instant **s hole" guys!!! It's never ok for someone to force themselves on another.

Keep yourself comfy and recall your best moments.

 

[anni]

I'm sorry lilstar. I'm awfully glad the bouncer was able to deal with the *sswipe. I think most men do feel like that, where they'd like to be the one throwing the jerks out into the street, it's just that the boobs and animals out there are the ones who are so visible and intrusive.

Yes, what others have said would be a good sort of day for you, I'd think. Stay warm, cuddle into something, drink something with way too much honey in it and maybe get your head distracted with some good, fluffy movie.

Do take care,

Anni

 

[Daisy_May]

I'm sorry this happened to you. It happens to me quite often as well. Your whole world gets tossed around like a snowglobe, and you're up and down and dizzy.

This guy was probably on drugs. Remember how many good men you have met, think of a good male friend and try to regain your trust in men overall, please don't give this guy more power than he has already tried to prove he has. I hope you feel better, safe and happy again soon.

 

[popeye]

I am sorry you had to deal with that. And glad the bouncer did his job and took care of the creep. I would suggest investing in a large teddy bear. I myself own a large bear I call squishy. He works wonders, just having something to hold when you have a flashback.

 

[Tinyflame]

Ya lilstar, am sorry too. But it's not 'men'- just a jerk, at least acting like one. It was also a 'guy' who threw him out.

 

[lilstar]

It's alright, i'm okay. Just don't expect it when your trying to enjoy yourself.

 

[Tinyflame]

Lilstar, I understand what you mean but believe me it happens everywhere, especially where other people are out enjoying themselves, or where you are alone with someone, or where there are no witnesses.

On the other hand, great relationships and friends and fun times happen too, and the majority of people won't act like that. -Here's to hoping for mostly-only fun times ahead!! :)

(Good for you- you worked thru it!)

 

[LSNP]

This is where you have GOT TO SAY, "Screw him!" ...and move on. You HAVE to!!! Right now. Look in the mirror and say, "SCREW HIM! Silly, stupid, one-dimensional penis-controlled man-thing.... I am BETTER, and SMARTER than you.... and, as a woman... I ALWAYS will be!" :-)