Supporter Vet Hubbie With Ptsd

[tina_562]

Good day, I am a 40 yr old woman who was married to her perfect match until he went back to war. We have been married 12 years and he was diagnosed with ptsd 6 years ago( after his 6th tour...this last one in afghanistan). I am desperate. I don't know what to do next. He has not recieved the help he needs, either due to his unwillingness,or our truly crappy military mental health services. He is on meds, which only seem to have an effect on our ability to shag! I see the damage he is doing to our son ( 16) and I feel my sanity dribbling out every day. I know logically on paper leaving is the best option , but I love this man. As luck would have it, I am old enough to know that love is only enough in a Beatles song. Add to that there is really no support here for spouses...just how best to help him! At this point i think F*!k him . I am really lost.

 

[myvetswife]

Hi Tina, from which country are you writing?

There is a supporters section, where you will find support dealing with it. I'm nearly the same age, married for nearly 20 years with my vet and hell we went through hell and a lot of bumpy roads to get where we are in the moment!

You are not alone!

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum Tina. :)

 

[KP the nut]

Hi Tina and welcome to the forum.

 

[Toria]

Hello Tina, as MyVetsWife says, there is a Supporters section of the Forum - come down and see us there. It is about supporting your Husband but it is also about finding support for yourself so that you can continue to support him for as long as you choose to.

Oh yes, and there are entire threads devoted to Libido :)

 

[discarded]

Hello Tina and welcome. You have come to the right place. I am sure most of us supporters have felt like you feel at the moment. We love our sufferers but at what cost to our own selves. You need to take care of yourself first, him second.