Want To Say Thank You And I'll Catch You Sometime

[Lionheart]

@Sammyiam It is okay to have a meltdown and may I remind you that just because you were mistreated in the past does not make you unlovable or a bad person In any way. You have always been kind and respectful to me and I appreciate that more than you know!

I think I speak for all or most of us when I say, we know what it is like to not be valued as the special beings that we are and it is okay to have doubts about things... It only means you are human and that is just fine!

I for one value your presence here on the forum and I have enjoyed speaking with you in the chat room. Please try to go easy on yourself, you are a pleasure and a blessing.

your friend,
Lion

 

[mrsps]

Sammy I don't care that you had a meltdown! What I care about is that you have come back on here to all your friends and talked to us. We are here for you whether you are happy or sad it doesn't matter we like you for who you are and we care xx

 

[Sammyiam]

Thank you everyone, I haven't had any meltdowns with anyone on this site or in real life I just had a meltdown with myself.

Thanks

 

[Fadeaway]

:hug: Glad to hear, (not the part about the meltdown) and glad you are still with us. I am sorry you had to go through that though.

 

[scout86]

I'm glad you're back. You don't have to deal with those thoughts all alone, you know. When it starts to get to be a problem, come and talk about it. You're well liked and appreciated here and we all want to help. Just like you want to help everyone else. (If I was going to run from someone in your family, I think it would have been your mother!)

 

[Justmehere]

:hug: Sammy :hug:

I'm so sorry for what your mother did and these horrible messages she gave you as a child and how they affect you now. It is awful, so awful.

This is a really important truth I want to remind you of:

You did not deserve the way she treated you. It was not your fault and it was not a sign of you not being good enough. All children deserve to be acknowledged with love and cherished in safe and healthy ways. Your mother was a horrible abuser and I don't know why she did what she did, but it was absolutely not because you were deserving of that kind of abuse and treatment. You were good enough. She was a horrible abuser for treating her child that way. It was not your fault. You are enough, just as you are, and you were enough as a child, just as you were then, to merit great love. She should have been proud of you. Despite all you have been through, you have become a very wonderful person.

My mother refused to acknowledge my own existence, my own name, at times too, and would publically say some of the exact same things.

Neither of us deserved that. No child does! Maybe in time both of us can throw off the shame they dumped on us.

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear @Sammyiam , it's very hard to not react or respond internally to beliefs formed out of rejection, pain & abusive words of others. However, yourself AND your core are indicative of a beautiful person. A meltdown just to yourself (I do that a lot) is still a meltdown IRL, however the harm is directed to yourself.

I am glad you're back. (And now I'm craving 'green eggs & ham'.. ;) :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Xox. )