Was Verbally Abused Right After Therapy Today.

[ReachingOutJ]

I went for therapy today, and we did a regression, where I went back to being 3, and I was to imagine myself as having a caring and loving mother. I cried my eyes out for the entire hour, and when I got back home, my boyfriend verbally abused me. He said "I guess I'm dealing with a child now." "Use your f*cking brain. You used to be so logical, and now you're all f*cked up."

This was all because my dinner selection was not up to his liking. I didn't tell him what to order.

I have nowhere to go right now, as my (verbally abusive) family's house is under construction, my grandma is over 90, and frail, and going to her might scare her, and the only friend I have where I could stay over has a cat, and I'm seriously allergic. I feel so sad right now, I cannot even describe it.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

Tell him to kiss your ass. He needs to use his brain, and understand that you just got back from therapy, and you are emotionally decompressing.

P.S. Tell him to kiss my ass also..both salty cheeks.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I hate selfish and insensitive people. I mean..really hate them. You need to dump this loser. He will be an impediment to your therapy. Seriously

 

[ReachingOutJ]

I hate selfish and insensitive people. I mean..really hate them. You need to dum...

I have nowhere to go. For now, I am stuck. His family has abandoned him, and won't even answer my emails or calls. They have dumped him on me. He has no money, and has been unemployed and living off of me for a long time.

 

[Chava]

I have nowhere to go. For now, I am stuck. His family has abandoned him, and won't even answer my emails or calls. They have dumped him on me. He has no money, and has been unemployed and living off of me for a long time.

So it's not really that you have nowhere to go, but that he has nowhere to go. And he can stick around and treat you like shit? Is there a reason why you don't feel like you can kick him out? I know this is too much to probably think about right now. But I hope you know it's an option. I'm so sorry for how he treated you. You don't deserve verbal abuse. You deserve support, or at least supportive space with what you are going through.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

I have nowhere to go. For now, I am stuck. His family has abandoned him, and won't even answer my e...

That's his problem, not yours. If even his family won't have anything to do with him, that should tell you something. First chance you get, get away from that soul sucker.

Buy him some vaseline and kneepads, and show him a busy streetcorner where he can "make some bread". Then tell him to get the f*ck out.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

So it's not really that you have nowhere to go, but that he has nowhere to go. And he can stick around and...

I have nowhere to go, and this house is a PTSD trigger, and he has nowhere to go, because they abandoned him. I think that even though he has hurt me for years, it would hurt me to send him out into the street with nothing. I know I'm probably a doormat for thinking this way, but i just can't bring myself to do it.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

That's his problem, not yours. If even his family won't have anything to do with him, that shou...

He is a soul sucker, in a long line of soul suckers from my past, including family members who are absuers and rapists. If I had the money, I would pay him to leave, and then I would go somewhere else and try to heal.

They are angry at him for taking advantage of me and hurting me, and yet they won't take him back. It doesn't make any sense to me at all.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

He is a soul sucker, in a long line of soul suckers from my past, including family members who are...

It's not your responsibility. Stop feeling sorry for his arrogant, bum ass and get mad. Put a restraining order on him.

 

[Kefira]

Perhaps just give him the choice. Lay it out for him and set the boundary. "you have not been contributing, you have been living off of me without being employed and you have been insulting me when I am trying to improve myself. If you cannot find a way to contribute and if you cannot show me the respect I deserve I will be forced to ask you to leave". Then he's been warned, and his actions will determine the outcome. Might make you feel justified in turning him out, even though you would be now.

 

[Chava]

They are angry at him for taking advantage of me and hurting me, and yet they won't take him back. It doesn't make any sense to me at all.

None of this matters, even if it feels like it does. He's an adult, right? You absolutely CAN kick him out. He'd figure something out.

 

[ReachingOutJ]

It's not your responsibility. Stop feeling sorry for his arrogant, bum ass and get mad. Put a...

Part of the problem is that no one is an asshole 24/7, and he says he is sorry after he hurts me, but... his apologies never hold water.