Thank you Rain, ((((Hugs)))) to you, ((((Deb)))), ((((Prime-no)))), ((((Chantal)))), (((((all who could use support)))). Chantal, I am so sorry, must you see him face to face? :(
It occurred to me, that funny saying someone posted: "Before you think you have bad self-esteem, make sure you aren't surrounded by a**holes!" Which makes me laugh, actually, and feel somewhat better. Some people do act like arseholes, actually.
But on the other hand, I realize something too. I have been too forgiving, or at least always internalizing what others do (or don't), I try to give them the reason, or excuse, or break. That sounds harmless enough, until I realize sometimes people are just not very nice people, and/ or it also equates to not hearing what they're saying (or saying with their silence). That is, I've been so busy seeing it from their angle (so I thought), I've missed the implicit messages, ie. "Take a hike". I wish people would just speak the truth instead of playing guessing games. It's like, "Can I buy a vowel for 400$, Alex", geez, really.
I could say it's my own bad self-esteem, except for one question I ask myself: if the situation were reversed, how would they feel, what would they think? And I know what the answer is. And they don't have ptsd. And they have good self-esteem.
So I feel sad, enlightened, foolish, a little disappointed, slow to learn, regret, eyes-opened, tired,, re-evaluating in the light of current understanding.