What Are You Feeling Today? Not Thinking, Rather Feeling! Can You Identify Yours?

[Deleted member 28403]

Tired, was fine while working from8 till 8, now jsut sad, crying constantly.

 

[Britt.f7]

A nurse just tried to placate me saying that it is hard for a doctor to diagnose dizziness and light headness, when I told her I was unhappy with a recent neuro visit. Seriously, I should know. Been dealing with this for years. But a dr should listen, not be rude, and not be dismissive. Which I told her. Definitely been standing up for myself as of late. I hate being knocked down.

 

[ms spock]

I feel very, very sad.

I feel vengeful.

I feel frustrated by my engaging so fully in these distorted cognitions.

• All or nothing thinking -- You see things in black and white categories. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.

• Over-generalization -- You see a single negative event as a never-ending pattern of defeat.

• Mental filter -- You pick out a single negative detail and dwell on it so exclusively that your vision of all reality becomes darkened, like the drop of ink that colors the entire beaker of water.

• Disqualifying the positive -- You reject positive experiences by insisting they "don't count" for some reason or other. In this way you can maintain a negative belief that is contradicted by your everyday experiences.

• Jumping to conclusions -- You make a negative interpretation even though there are no definite facts that convincingly support your conclusion. (Involves mind-reading and fortune-telling.)

• Magnification and minimization -- You exaggerate the importance of things, or you inappropriately shrink things until they appear tiny.

• Emotional reasoning -- You assume that your emotions necessarily reflect the way things really are, as in "I feel it, therefore it must be true."

• Should statements -- You try to motivate yourself with "should" and "should not," as if you have to be whipped and punished before you could be expected to do anything.

• Labeling and mislabeling -- This is an extreme form of overgeneralization. Instead of describing your error, you attach a negative label to yourself.

• Personalization -- You see yourself as the cause of some negative external event which, in fact, you were not primarily responsible for.

 

[Deleted member 20978]

I feel very very sad. Some shame for how I express my anger. Been through so much I just get mad when people are mean to me. Even when it's in my head. :(

Feel sad remembering all the good days over the years.

 

[Tinyflame]

Time is screwed up for us with ptsd @Jemini . Please go easy on yourself. :( :hug:

 

[Deleted member 20978]

Time was never on my side
So on I wait my whole lifetime...

I think I am going easy on myself.

:hug:s

 

[Tinyflame]

((((((( @Jemini ))))))))

crying constantly.

Why @Saelben ? :( :hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am very happy today. It started out really rocky but I managed to turn it around. Lifted my spirits into a good place.

 

[Rosewater]

Afraid.

Our youngest is being bullied at school & what's happening to her echoes what I've had to deal with at work for several years. It's triggering all sorts of anxieties about my own situation and career, ability to find a new job and escape, etc.

Hoping it's not too much of a rough day. We're seeing the school this afternoon and I don't want to be a wreck by then.

 

[Ronin]

Our youngest is being bullied at school

Are teachers involved in resolving that situation? Possible school psychologist / counseling services?

 

[Deleted member 28403]

@Rosewater
It's awful thats happening. I hope school does something to help solve it, if they don't, take the case up, otherwise they might jsut shove it under the carpet as they did with my case.

Hopefully the situation gets better, good luck :hug:

 

[Rosewater]

Thank you both. We spoke to the teacher briefly this morning and she said she had already spoken to the ringleader as another teacher had noticed something going on.

The school take the welfare of the children very seriously & have made all the right noises on that front. It's a small local school. We're seeing the teacher for a more detailed conversation this afternoon. I have to take the lead in that as I'm the one who's been told the most about what's happening by our daughter. My wife and the teacher only know a bit, not the full extent that I've been told about. The school will definitely take the right actions, so that doesn't worry me.

My problem is that it's raising an intense amount of unresolved pain of my own. I'm having trouble containing it - I haven't felt this bad for months. Seeing the pain and distress it's causing my child is showing me all the pain I've felt in my own situation for years, which I repressed. Its making my PTSD cup brim to the top, making it so hard to function properly. All the cognitive distortions of hopelessness and futility keep flooding in so strongly I can get on top of them. I can't avoid the situation because I need to help my child, but it's taking me to the edge today. We're off to the school in a few minutes. I'll stay mindful and do what I have to do. Then I'm going to come home, hug the children & wrap up warm and collapse in front of the TV for a while. All I want to do is cry right now.