What Are You Good At?

[Deleted member 19804]

I'm good at:
- learning new languages
- eventually speaking those languages pretty much without an accent
- making sharp jokes and remarks
- empathising; there's this one short film from pixar where clouds 'produce' all kinds of animal babies and the storks have to pick them up. But one cloud only has the dangerous animals, so everyone avoids him. And then he starts crying.. oh my gosh, even just the thought of it breaks my heart!

Sometimes I think I have more empathy than what's good for me. But hey, at least I will never be a sociopath!

 

[ghotiff]

I was raised by a perfectionist mother so I struggle to say I am good at anything unless I can prove myself to be the best. So...this is difficult.

I am good at cooking (at least my husband thinks so).

 

[desiderata310]

UGH! I had this assignment from my therapist a few months ago. He wrote down things that he felt were positive attributes. He handed me the list and asked me to take it home and look at it. I don't know why but it caused a really horrible and anxiety induced rage.
He advised me to tear the list up and decided that we aren't quite ready for that yet.

I thought I could try this again when I saw the thread.
.... I don't think I can find anything that I would say I am good at.
ok... ummm.... yeah...

 

[Deleted member 28403]

@desiderata310

Though you might not see your own good sides, many others see many good things about you. Try to believe in yourself a bit more. For one, you managed to open yourself and say what you think on these forums. You manage to go to theraphy, you manage so many things, and there are so many you are good at.

Many might say that someone is stupid because he can't do a certain task they can do, but they maybe can't do some tasks that person can do.

If you made a competition amongst animals and took tree climbing as the test, of course the monkey would win, but still, on some other test, monkey might be the loser. Humans are different and test shouldn't be uniform. While you might not be good at something, you are probably really great at something else, so find your good sides and expose them.

 

[Britt.f7]

I have raised good young men. That in part has to be due to me. Right?

 

[Seagreen]

I have raised good young men. That in part has to be due to me. Right?

Yes it is!!

 

[TonyG]

I am a fitter and turner I can make almost anything from metal, and I fix machines

 

[ms spock]

I am good at including people in social situations.

 

[Friday]

@desiderata310 I'm the exact same way. Someone tells me I'm good at something, and it just makes me want to snarl & bite someone.

<grin> I might just be good at snarling and biting ;)

Honestly, though, if I take away the positive attribution and replace it with "What am I skilled at?" I can manage the exercise.

Mad Skills in... Situational awareness, lateral thinking, 2nd (Go between from leadership & lower, regardless of the level. I'm a shite leader, and a PITA /lousy pure follower, but as long as no idiot promotes me into a leadership position I'm a natural born beta), bed, herding cats (children), practical application of certain weapons, getting into places I shouldn't be in, talking to strangers, horses, losing things, etc. Lots of stuff.

I can usually figure out... Art stuff, the most complicated and stupid way of doing something (it's a skill, really, as then one reverse engineers from that point something simple & practical), mechanical stuff, etc. Lots of stuff.

Am I good at any of it? Not really. Except maybe the sex thing. But out of both of those lists (including the etc. bits which are in my head), it's the only thing I take pride in. I suspect that may be the bottom line: in order to consider myself good at something, I have to take pride in my skills or talents, instead of blowing them off as useless / annoying / troublesome / etc.

 

[desiderata310]

OK.. if you're talking about mad skills... yeah.. I can list off a few of those..
I can ride a road bike like there's no tomorrow and keep up with the "fast guys" for at least half a 50 mile ride before getting dropped. I have a propensity for endo-ing over a mountain bike.
I can be tenacious to the point of stupidity.
No I'm not GOOD at any of it.

 

[ms spock]

I am great at disco dancing.

 

[Ronin]

I'm good at pissing people off, making the most ridiculous apologies for it, sabotaging my life just to put it back together after to persuade myself it's still worth the effort, and, hmmm. Talented in, people say writing and communication, I don't know about either, given what I'm aware of is the pissing people off. Skilled at? Might be a longer list. One I don't feel so self snarking about, though.