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Most of all, I am grateful for bumping into one of the men that abused me as a boy - he moved to my town (a shock to me in 1997) and I used to feel this was a curse. Today he is a feeble, stooped over old man and for the first time in my life he didn't look at me with abusers eyes but eyes of shyness and shame. I forgive you old man. I can say that today I forgive you and I have no desire to hurt you. I also have no desire to be your friend. Go in peace but stay away from me. Each day I walk past the bowling club and see you, you are reminded of what you did. That is enough for me..