What Do You Do To Express Your Anger?

[silkleaves]

I'm with @ChasingMyTail You know I'm angry when my home is spotless...because I will go into turbo clean mode. Kiddo has learned to quickly grab whatever she wants to keep and put it away neatly, because my clean mode largely consists of throwing stuff away.

On the bright side, we have very few things we don't need, and have learned to do without things we do need. Forced minimalism hah!

 

[NovemberStar]

I play very very loud angry music and shout out the lyrics.

A really good one is The Cure - 'Shiver and Shake' - lyrics:

You're just a waste of time
You're just a babbling face
You're just three sick holes that run like sores
You're a f*cking waste

You're like a slug on the floor
Oh! You're useless and ugly
And useless and ugly
And I shiver and shake
When I think of how you make me hate

I want to smash you to pieces
I want to smash you up and screaming
I want to smash you helpless
Down on the floor
Smash you until you're not here anymore

And I shiver and shake
I shiver and shake
Shiver and shake
Shiver and shake
Shiver and shake



Read more: The Cure - Shiver And Shake Lyrics | MetroLyrics


lol! Love the 'you're just 3 sick holes that run like sores' bit '

I also listen to music and go for a long, stumpy walk / exercise. Apparently ripping up a telephone book is one some try (verity thick and hard to tear through!). I also write in my journal, write a poem, paint (just splash paint onto canvas - doesn't have to be a picture or anything fancy or recognizable!). Post on here - use the :mad::mad::mad::mad::mad: button - seems silly, but it really does help!!!

 

[Justmehere]

Here are a few things I do to express or handle anger:

Set boundaries
Advocate for myself
Use nonviolent communication techniques (http://m.wikihow.com/Practice-Nonviolent-Communication)
Go to dance class
Write letters and tear them up

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I bounce a basketball really hard. I also rip up old telephone books or magazines- I really enjoy that. I go from frantically tearing at it to gentle rips as the anger is released. Watching ocean waves is something I used to enjoy, but isn't really an option currently. Music is sometimes good, too.

 

[Caterpillar]

Watching ocean waves is something I used to enjoy, but isn't really an option currently.

The ocean really is incredibly calming, always assuming you can find a quiet beach that isn't filled with nitwits running around and yelling, lol. I wish I lived nearer to one too.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I took a anger management class which helped me tremendously. Now I just weed out anyone who is drama producing. I express my anger as well as I can.

My sister, however is a rageaholic who blacks out when she is enraged and she hurts people.

My anger used to blow up and out at the most inappropriate times.

Now I remain calm as I can and figure out what I need to do and say.

 

[littlelostchild]

Wow - thank you all so much! I have read through and will be back again. I just popped in to have a quick peek. There are ideas here that I will try very soon and buying plates will happen today - I was thinking of making a mosaic already and that is a great combination. There is a thrift store beside where I will be today. I also have a new use for magazines and phone books. I never thought about cleaning the house, but I see the side benefit of that too. Oh my, lots of new ideas to try to express old rage!

Many thanks!

 

[littlelostchild]

In thanks I share a poem with you all:

The screams and tears of so many storms
Are caught in my throat
Aching to be expelled
But are silenced by someone unseen
An ancient relic of no real use now
But ENORMOUS, none the less
Possessing inordinate power - yet hidden from both sight and knowledge
To know the relic
Is to know part of myself

LLC

 

[silkleaves]

An additional benefit to the housecleaning @littlelostchild is that I find that my home really is a visual cue to how I feel mentally. And one feeds off the other. Like when my home is a mess, its because my head is a mess and when I look around my home, I just lose all desire to do anything. But when my home is tidy and clean, then I feel like i have some breathing space, there's that one thing I have control over and accomplished, so I feel like I'm able to tackle other things too...

Says I...as I sit at my desk with every coffee cup I own on it, laundry on the couch, dishes in the sink and omg don't get me started on my bathroom. I'm feeling down and lethargic at the moment though. My goal is to get the dishes washed today. But then, that's been my goal since last weekend. Please don't judge me...argh.

 

[Lionheart]

There are ideas here that I will try very soon and buying plates will happen today - I was thinking of making a mosaic already and that is a great combination.

If I understand you correctly, you are thinking of breaking plates to make mosaics and in the process get your anger out. I think this is a wonderful idea and I wish you much success with it!!!

By the way, I once saw a book that was about therapy for childhood sexual abuse and it was called "The Mosaic Mind". I never read the book but the title stuck with me for all these years and it conjured up beautiful mental images. I hope that this form of anger management therapy works well for you!

PS: don't know why my quote did not work properly, admins please advise. thanks.

 

[KP the nut]

PS: don't know why my quote did not work properly, admins please advise. thanks.

Unsure maybe a missed / or ]. Fixed now :tup: