What Do You Think Of My Plan?

[Healing Reins]

Hi,
I'm going to try to make this simple and sweet.

So last week (exactly one week ago) I went to a party, got really drunk, and I think I was raped..I explain more in my trauma diary
(That honestly sounds so weird to say like it hasn't hit me yet.) I explain it in my trauma diary

[DLMURL]https://www.myptsd.com/c/threads/new-trauma.41591/#post-675432[/DLMURL]

But Basically I have a plan which is
1) Go to the gyno at Planned Parenthood (made an apt.)
2) See the rape crisis center (saving grace) (I've made an apt. there)
3) Call my youth group leader when I feel like using alcohol..I don't have a drinking problem, but I overdid it last week, and I just want to make sure I don't overdue it again

I'm trying to be proactive about all of this and I was wondering if any of you guys have/had any more ideas?

 

[mamachick]

I think that it sounds like you have what you need to do well thought out. I am glad you are taking this action. I have not read your trauma diary but the feeling of the unknown can come with some negative feelings in the future. If you have access to a counselor, it might be a good idea to make an appointment there as well. While your youth group leader is a good idea, processing this with a therapist may be to your benefit as well. Also, I dont know how available your leader is when the urge strikes to use alcohol. A counselor might be able to provide you with some tools to prevent the over use of alcohol.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I have a problem with 3. I'm going to be blunt. You are underage and shouldn't be drinking AT ALL. I don't think you understand the seriousness of drinking, even though you were drunk the last time you were raped. No, I am not blaming you for being raped, so please don't misunderstand me. However, you have the power to prevent yourself from being revictimized yet say you are just going to take it easy the next time you do drink. Why are you playing with fire? I don't understand why you would put yourself back into a potentially dangerous situation given what's happened to you twice now. Really, I just don't get it. And no, it's not just about being only 18 and drinking, its about drinking putting you into an unsafe place. Yes, I realize you're young, and you want to have fun, but don't risk your safety. It's not worth it, believe me. It's SO easy for one drink to turn into two, or three, or even four. The truth is that it takes only one drink for things to take a wrong turn as just one drink can put your mind into a diminished capacity. Don't play with fire. Just stay away from drinking for now.

 

[Healing Reins]

That was my plan, not to use alcohol till I'm 21.

 

[junglegirl]

Wow rape is a terrible trauma; I am sorry you may have experienced this,healing reins.

 

[Hashi]

Hi Healing Reins,

Does your plan include some therapy time to talk about the context for what happened?

It sounds like maybe because of past experiences you're vulnerable, not just to drinking alcohol but to finding it hard to stay safe more generally. That would extend to the kinds of people you spend time with, the kinds of parties you go to, having arrangements in place for getting home when you go out, and so on.

It may be that things are OK if you stay away from alcohol. I wouldn't assume that though. I think it's worth looking at your general strategies for taking care of yourself, with a therapist or trained counsellor, and making sure you've got things in place to do that.

I'm so sorry you had this experience. I wish you healing.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I agree with @Hashi about the people you hang out with. When I stopped hanging out with the drinking, casual sex people my life become so much more better. If I have kept going with them I would probably be homeless, depressed or dead. An alcoholic. You name it I would probably be it/ have it including incurable STDS.

I am in college now. I have a stable life and a safe loving home. I would have never had those things if I didn't free myself and see the terrible future with so much toxic people around me.

Those 'friends' you went drinking with are really no friends of yours. Take care of yourself. You are 18, you are young. Drinking wont solve a damn thing, you learned it just adds to them.

Please take care.

 

[shimmerz]

@Healing Reins I commend you for your being able to see that your drinking is something you need to deal with. I wish you the best of luck with that as it is a slippery slope - especially if your protection mechanisms need work too. Best of luck to you.