What does it feel like to feel happy??

[ladee]

It makes me sad, when we pick or choose to follow the 'norms of society' to be married, have children and the white picket fence... Then our soul slowly erodes because we brought US into this arrangement. And we are still not happy.

In hindsight, it's easy to see where we made the wrong choices, but then we are responsible for others and have created a double bind for ourselves.

From my experience, the only place we will ever find 'peace or happiness' is within our self. I don't know if you have a trauma background, you haven't said, or I didn't catch it, if you have PTSD. But I know, had I not resolved and healed as much as I can on this life journey, I would have no peace , no matter where I lived, who I lived with or have any of the outside trappings of success.

I can only suggest, if you are not already in therapy, to at least give that and yourself a chance. To give yourself a chance to see what happiness is, or if you don't have it, how to attain it.

Do you feel you are depressed? Because I have had a lifetime of depression, and it clouds the reality of my life when I am in that place of feeling trapped by my own life.

Of course I have PTSD and have spent many years trying to get healthy, emotionally,physically and spiritually.

It was a lot of hard work, but as time went on, and I faced and conquered a past I had no control over, I became aware, in little spurts and sputters , of some real self worth.

I'm grateful you shared this with us. Maybe before you make any major life changing choices, you will consider that you do have the right to happiness and peace. And it's never ever to late to start on a healing journey.

I wish you the best, I encourage you to investigate possibly finding a therapist to get to the root of your unhappiness. You have your own answers, sometimes we need help finding those answers...

And I hope you had a good day today also.. one of my favorite sayings, 'where ever we go, there we are'... something for you to possibly think about and see if you want to find what happiness means to you. You are worth it, even if it doesn't feel that way now. Wishing you the best outcome.

 

[LanaD]

I think many of us think that happiness is having no problems whatsoever so we feel that we can never be happy because "there's always something". I used to think like that and things changed a lot when I changed my mindset.

I have many problems to deal with (such as PTSD) and I feel very lonely, but I do feel happy and here's what it feels like: it's an immense feeling of gratitude that reaches down to the very core of my core. My job sometimes drives me crazy but I like my job and I am grateful for it. There are times that I come back from the supermarket and get tears in my eyes looking at the abundance before me - I mean, I can buy delicious food, or even yucky food, when I want to! Instead of inspecting my imperfections in the mirror I now look at myself and say, "Girl, you are beautiful and you are HOT!" Instead of disgust and shame, I now think about and look at myself with love - I have learned that not only is it ok to love myself and be kind to myself, but that it is actually healthy (and for this I thank my amazing therapist, for and to whom I shall be eternally grateful)! I am so grateful for all this so I am happy :)

 

[Rani G2]

Happy? For me a frame of mind in a certain time and place, Never static. Can change in a second...
Not an emotional state that seems to exist for itself without the negative.

For some it’s the „everything happens for a reason“ mindset to be able to bear this reality with Religion/spirituality. Explainability gives a sense of control which again brings solace. Can be also seen as human strength.

So, what does it feel like to be happy?
Mostly when I feel connected on many levels. From solidification - To motion. This is true to me NOW, because I don’t live in a country where I experience war. I Don’t live with a abusive person, my health is not deteriorating, I am not on survival now. Right now something like „living is interesting“ is possible because I can shift from survival to living somewhat normal (Whatever that means) It’s NOW, it can be different in any minute. Feel-good moods appear and dissapear. It’s very subjective and depending on many things.