What does safety mean to you?

[Tinyflame]

I saw this on alerts, I am going to adjust my answer again, safety for me is knowledge of and a presence of trustworthy people and God.

 

[Sweetleaf]

For me, high level safety feels like this:

I am completely relaxed. I do not have a single shred of anxiety. I dont have a single worry on my mind. I feel content, maybe even happy. It's like, nothing is going to hurt me, and I'm not even imagining the possibility at that time that I feel super safe. I can even have mild to strong feelings of confidence.

It has been years since I felt that safe.

 

[Mee]

This is such an interesting question. And I think one that challenges the idea that ptsd is, for all of us, cognitive distortion. ?. I think that the world is never going to be totally safe ; a totally safe world wouldn’t necessarily be a healthy or enjoyable world.

What would feel ‘safe’ to me would be a world where inequalities and failures are more recognised; for example we know that certain people in society have disadvantages and to say societal pressures do not work against them and there is a level playing field is evidentially not so. It feels like there is societal and institutional cognitive dissonance in dealing with evidence about this and ideal.

Similarly the ideals about justice, punishment and so on. I think were authorities more honest and said ‘these fail people’ I would feel safer. That they are considered fit for purpose makes me feel outside societal acceptance though I am in the majority of women/girls who the justice system and law enforcement system has failed.

It’s not a change; it’s that we live under s delusion they are adequate.

With nothing changing, no statistics being impacted ; just the statistics as they are being understood and accepted would make me feel safer. Why? I would more likely be believed and taken seriously at each stage I tried to get help. As a child or as a woman in middle age.

 

[Deanna]

Safety to me is my home environment. I lived too much, in a hostile environment. Something that wasn't clean ( other places) didn't smell clean. Pettty arguing that destroyed the atmosphere.. Words that were meant to mame. Nothing in between. The smell of sex and certain music.

My home has to be perfect. Every corner has to be perfect. That's safety to me.