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My husband is just starting out in therapy and I was just wondering if they focus on opening him up emotionally or what kind of things they address in therapy? He has combat related ptsd. What helped you most in therapy? Did it help you to open up again?
 
There are a number of ways of successfully treating PTSD, primarily through therapy, sometimes paired with medication. Some common therapies shown to help best with PTSD include CBT and EMDR. Research also shows though, that perhaps the most healing part of therapy is building a strong relationship with a therapist, meaning there is trust, support, no judgement, caring, knowledge, experience, and a long term commitment. For example, I'm in a more traditional psychodynamic (talk) therapy with some elements of DBT and others, and it works well for me.

The key to PTSD therapy, in terms of healing or recovering from it as much as possible is to deal head on with the trauma, working through the experiences, the senses, the feelings, directly until we can put them in proper context and they don't disproportionately upset us anymore. That's a very very difficult and often time-consuming process though. Other parts of therapy include establishing trust, understanding exactly how PTSD is playing out for the individual, and working on strategies to cope with symptoms, etc.

In addition to dealing specifically with trauma, he'll likely also be encouraged to provide some context about his life; his upbringing, personality, relationships, etc. So, it's a combination of focusing on openness and also symptom-specific treatment in many cases.

Therapy absolutely helps me open up again, for me, it's the primary goal, to be self-aware and open up to getting my needs met, being more myself, a better person, happier, and less stressed/upset.

What helps me most in therapy is trusting my therapist to know what she's doing, be there for me, and having, most of all, a safe place to tell my life story and have the support I need to look at it gently and critically, to see how I've gotten where I am and how to get where I want to be.

I hope it helps your husband! Therapy is emotional, hard work, but can be extremely rewarding in time.
 
What helps me most in therapy is trusting my therapist to know what she's doing, be there for me, and having, most of all, a safe place to tell my life story and have the support I need to look at it gently and critically, to see how I've gotten where I am and how to get where I want to be.

Couldn't agree more. That sums it up so well.
 
If he's active duty still and getting treatment through on post mental health, I think it goes a lot different. Haven't been thrilled to death with the social worker my husbands been seeing.
 
To understand therapy, and to get support yourself-for the stress you are under, you may want to consider becoming involved in individual or group therapy.
 
Since you've mentioned opening up twice in a short post, is this an outcome you're hoping to see? Therapy can be a long and difficult process. During it I've usually needed to withdraw even more - to retreat to my cave, so to speak. And I'm female with PTSD that isn't combat related.

I think you might need to take a long-term view of your husband's therapy, and to manage your expectations overall. When I first began therapy I thought it would take a few months and I'd come out feeling stable and OK with the world . Sadly, it doesn't happen that way - it's a tough journey into dark places and it takes time.

While making that journey, it's difficult to find the energy to connect with other people at all, let alone emotionally. Of course I don't know your husband so I can only speak generally. In general as a supporter, I think you should expect to be treated with respect and decency. I don't think you can expect too much more of someone having trauma therapy. I'm afraid opening up isn't something I would anticipate soon.

Along the lines of change's suggestion I would think about yourself. You can be very much involved in supporting your husband but you can't be involved in his actual therapy. That's a closed room that you can't go into - literally and figuratively - and that's how it needs to be. Therapy needs that seclusion and privacy. I think the best thing you can do for both you and your husband is focus on taking care of yourself as well, and nurturing your own life and connections.
 
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