What Is The Thought Process Involved In Isolating?

[Ned]

Hello 'Wife of', add my endorsement to that. Mistakes are INEVITABLE, and, blokes in glass houses 'n all that....
And yes, when you're coping well it does get treated as a given, I know I could be a lot more encouraging, not sure what happens, it just fades into the background, and if anyone were to point it out (Like now) I would feel guilty.
Mistakes are how you learn, this (despite appearances) isn't a firefight, you can make'em and live..

 

[wife of]

good on you Ned,not going to apologise for tweaking your guilt complex,you seem to have it figured that guilt is a great learning tool,doesn't mean you have to get depressed about it,guilt can be turned into something wonderfuly positive if we learn from it and move forward.....

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Hi there Princess & irritated. Glad you have both joined the forum. The frustration and heartache that isolating causes us supporters is sooo painful. It's natural to want to do something for our veterans but have you heard of the saying 'less is more'? In my experience with all the best intentions in the world sometimes the best thing for me to do for my darling hubby is do nothing at all. Don't even ask him what he wants to do, or what he wants to eat, don't even bother giving him choices (this or that) coz there are times they just want us to shut up as they are having enough of a challenge surviving. Being gentle and kind, patient, having unconditional love (as long as you are not being abused) and more patience has been the best way forward in our relationship. He will also learn and in his own time be able to talk to you about how he's feeling but you can't make it happen.
Understanding totally your frustations and letting you know we all care about you. :)
RG xx

 

[wife of]

ok here is a thought,might seem a little juvenile...but hey if it fits the mood......might be worth when in a good mood discussing the idea of an sms templete he can send you or if in the same house a door hanger that says some thing like,back off and let me be,I will come find you when ready to be around you! Just a thought...

 

[wife of]

and for those who sometimes have problems getting them to the table for dinner......don't sweat it,forces guys love carefully stored leftovers,anything is better than canteen cooking.........

 

[Angelina92]

Resilient, I did receive some text from him yesterday. I had been dropping him an email every three or four days, and he thanked me for them. Think he is coming out of it. I am just frightened where we stand. I can't go to the friend zone. Im too crazy about him.

Wife of, thats not a stupid idea at all.