Poll What Is Your Stance On Hugs?

[KrispyKreme]

Sending you virtual hugs ((((((((((((((nomedic)))))))))))))).

 

[Saule]

I never used to hug anyone, but I'm pretty open to hugs in general these days. I just started forcing myself to do the 'hello' or 'goodbye' hug like everyone seemed to do and eventually it didn't make me feel weird and awkward. Now I hug most people unless I get a 'don't hug me' vibe from them.

Sometimes a well-timed hug from my DP can be so helpful. It will often bring me to tears because I didn't realise how much I needed to be held.

 

[stephanie44]

I love hugs and wish I had more in my life. My mom was/is a hugger but my dad was not so it can be harder for me to hug men.

 

[Padfoot]

It really depends. I'm not a huggy person, quite prickly actually lol, but have no real problems so my huggy friends don't bother me. I had one friend give me a hug when she found out what happened. She's not a huggy person either, but didn't quite know what else to do.

 

[Leah123]

My husband, therapist, daughter, and occasionally women I feel close too, when the opportunity presents itself, like teachers. That's it. Oh, and my daughter's friends: kids need hugs.

 

[Lina007]

I only ask if I see someone is distressed or needs uplifting. Otherwise, I never ask, and leave it up to the other person (if they're someone I'd like to hug) unless I'm a bit more comfortable with them or they are the type to need it. For example, I have one friend who likes to hug hello and goodbye. Since it is of benefit for them, and since I am comfortable with hugging them, after some time, I would begin offering hugs if they are that type of person. I could probably use more hugs.

 

[edgarbedger]

Family never really gave hugs except when giving or receiving gifts for Christmas or birthdays. I don't think guys really give hugs as much but sometimes I wouldn't mind.

 

[Sammyiam]

I only hug my two children, my grandson and my husband. I have a couple of really close friends that know about my past and when I'm having a major meltdown they will hug and hold me, but only after asking me to make sure it's ok. I have like a 2 metre circle around me that I carn't stand if anyone gets into that space.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I now love hugs. The nourish me. I only hug the people I feel safe with. I love the hugs of my family the best.

 

[Ti Vu]

I love giving and getting hugs from anyone. Whether it's our first encounter or we've known each other for ages, for however long they want. We'll stand there all day if we have to. Only if they feel comfortable with it though, of course. If not, that's totally cool. There are many ways to express good will, friendship, and affection. I feel that it kinda "transfers" good vibes and fortune.

 

[Britt.f7]

I was relieved when, at the end of my first session, my therapist did not hug me. I was hoping she wasn't a hugger.

On that note I gave my sister, who is like I am regarding affection, kind of standoffish, two hugs yesterday just because I actually wanted to. It felt nice.

 

[Go Hungry]

I'm kinda all over the place regarding hugs. I don't know exactly where this came from, but I do know when I was a kid and tried to hug somebody, I've been straight up smacked for trying it. Sometimes I want them, but often I'm afraid of them... It's like.. I want to hug others sometimes, and hold them and comfort them, because that's where I feel comfortable. I want to feel the warmth of another person. But to be hugged by another, it's.. it's like giving them power over me somehow.

Unless it's a cat or something. Or my nieces or parents. Basically people I've known a long time and feel like I can trust.