Book 'women who hurt themselves'.....
"Drinking and using drugs are similar to dissociative techniques used by the trauma victims to shut off the pain, fear, and rage experienced during the abuse. The abused child learns to evoke the numbing and disconectedness necessary to endure the vilolations. The adult survior, wishing to create this experience of escape, searches for other avenues to this state of oblivion".........
I do not mean to dismiss any men on here or any other trauma survivors. I just thought this was exactly what we were all thinking! It applies to both men and women in my opinion.
The TRS explanation - I guess if a woman has experienced sexual abuse as a trauma then they would have learned to dissociate while that was happening (as above outlines). So for a woman to partake in this activity in order to dissociate makes sense. It is a perfect scenario in which to disconnect. There are also other dynamics here, wanting to be loved by inappropraite means. Diminishing aspect to who you are by doing something that may rasie disgust in themeslves..........
We are complex beings eh?
i hope that was not to uncomfortable for some of you to read? This is just about educating oursleves!
Spirit x
