What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Tanishq]

words a friend yelled at me when I was on the verge of having a panic attack in public and seeking out her help.

Stillscared, I am sorry you had to go through this.

I want to say something. 95% population of this world fully asleep and projecting their own issues on others. They even don't know or have no idea what they speak. Just blatant show of judgement.

Do you still have to deal with this person? I hope not.

 

[stillscared123]

Thanks Jaret. I have come to forgive both of these people...it was very painful at the time but they did not understand. The thought they were helping me by minimizing what I felt but it only hurt more. I explained that to them, but it is hard for people who do not experience extreme anxieties to comprehend.

 

[Tanishq]

The thought they were helping me by minimizing what I felt but it only hurt more. I explained that to them, but it is hard for people who do not experience extreme anxieties to comprehend.

Everyone experience difficulties in their life. But there are only few people who try to resolve it all. Most of just don't try to go involve in it or try to remove the problem.

It doesn't make any sense that they were trying to help you by minimizing you. It sounds like they can't get your problem very well and wants you to get rid of the problem the way they go away. You're different and you want to solve your problems.

That's so nice of you that you forgave them and it shows your understanding and kindness. :)

Hope you're feeling well.

 

[Debbet]

I have actually used those words on myself when trying to head off a panic attack, it doesn't work. I just can't seem to let go of things, makes me feel over sensitive. 'course I realize people who say things like that to me probably wouldn't have lived through my stuff anyway.

 

[Mary Black]

Tonight online a longtime friend from junior college whom I have only known long-distance recently, typed something to the extent of "You have to go back to being who you were then. Your are too sensitive now to things that happen to you. You used to be really strong and wonderful but now I look down on you." I think it was just a blind moment. He is a very good person overall. But it wasn't what I wanted to hear when I'm just starting to process past events more.

Ever had a comment made by a family member/ friend/ coworker/ stranger that was just counterproductive/unrealistic/unsupportive?

 

[Tanishq]

But it wasn't what I wanted to hear when I'm just starting to process past events more.

most people wants you to the same person all the time. Then they complain that you are being bore for them. Then they will say you need to change yourself.

Now you go through very rough moments of your life, they tell you're not what you used to be. Well, it means to me they really don't love us no matter what. It's a love on condition based by themselves. I am glad such people left me, I never want such people in my life.

Sometimes I wonder why people can't live just for the living this life.

Sorry Mary, you had to go through this.

 

[CrazyHorse]

I hate when people (used) to say they miss the old me, or I should go back to being who I was then! I do not miss my old self! I see now that my old self was headed for disaster because of my inability to set boundaries properly. (Guilt in what happend to me should not be read into that).

My old self hung around people who had poor moral, no awesomeness and poor intellect. I do not hang around or know people like that any longer. I've raised the bar in friendships and relationships, because I've raised the bar on myself. And that has had a positive outcast on my entire life.

 

[CrazyHorse]

Just had to add: My aim is not to go back to my old self, but to find a balance in a new, awesome me - without the PTSD symptoms! :)

 

[Mary Black]

most people wants you to the same person all the time

Yes, that is absolutely true.

I'm also noticing that there's a lot of societal pressure lately to be high-functioning even if you can't be for some reason at the time. This seems to have a lot to do with the economy. Everyone is expected to be a workaholic or they aren't respected. I'm a graduate student and taking time off of school for the term to pay attention to long-neglected health issues. To me this is reasonable but already a few people have insinuated that I'm slacking off or indulging somehow. How is working my health indulgent?

 

[OliviaMadison]

Glad to see something humorous on here haha.

One that's said to me all the friggin time;
"You can't just be depressed all the time, just move on!"

Hun. If I could move on, I wouldn't be talking to you about this. Dumbass.

 

[Ayasha]

"Get over it"

Thanks, that's helpful. If I punched you right now and said 'get over it', would you be able to? No.

 

[Tanishq]

I'm a graduate student and taking time off of school for the term to pay attention to long-neglected health issues.

I am also facing a situation like this. I am forced to pay attention to my physical damage and needs. I can't study and this has been major reason for me. Lots of things are very bad for me and I am hurting because of that. People think you're wasting a year, but what can I do? I have no option and carry on. I have hard time sitting at college for half an hour due to some physical problems.

I am hearing you what you say here. Most people are workaholic and their life's high priority is economic survival. We know understand well that we have other things in our life and we need to pay attention to it. We can't become like them.

Perhaps economic madness has made them to expect high functioning from people. It needs to be changed.

Mary do what you feel and what makes you think.

One thing I learned if you neglect small physical problem, in future it is going to become huge issue. I had very hard time in past and couldn't understand how to resolve issues. But now I know I can make changes and I have time to do so.