What To Never Say To A Ptsd Sufferer

[Shellbell]

Never say 'Wow,! you have been through so much, it's a miracle you are not in a mental institution'.

My response 'give me time and I might'.

 

[Britt.f7]

Well, Shellbell, I'd have to tell them, "been there done that, a few times over!" Like my grandpa use to say, I am definitely certified! :roflmao: Don't worry, he said that about the both of us!

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Have you found a job yet? <as asked by people who know I'm on disability....>

Uhm, no. Not working for another year, probably longer in this economy!

Sometimes I like having an invisible ailment as I can blend in with the normies. Other times it sucks because nobody thinks I have a problem. Damn my awesomeness at faking it!!!

 

[Springer80]

'Are you sure it's not just all in your head?'

Are you trying to give me some ultimate zen head f***?

 

[MissMacD]

I have been closed up in my own head with a zipper on my mouth for so long that I often don't know how to express how I feel to someone else. That is the point of taking him to therapy so that we can learn to communicate about it with each other. He had such an opposite childhood that there are places where we have a hard time understanding each other.

 

[MissMacD]

Have you found a job yet? <as asked by people who know I'm on disability....>

I get this all the time from people who know I am off work because of my PTSD. It's frustrating because it's like because they cannot physically see my disability they assume I should be able to work. People have a hard time understanding something they cannot physically see.

 

[Sues]

Sometimes I like having an invisible ailment as I can blend in with the normies. Other times it sucks because nobody thinks I have a problem. Damn my awesomeness at faking it!!!

I really like this and can relate to it ScaredofLonely!!

 

[Britt.f7]

Miss Macd and Scarednlonely, I have a chronic illness to go with my mental illness. When I worked, people wouldn't believe I was sick when I went home. Frankly, what is sick suppose to look like? If you acted sick they would complain because you are always acting sick. It's a no win situation.

I hate it when people who accept that your sick at any other time, with the exception of when you have to cancel something with them. Then they take it personally.

Here is a site written by someone with fibromyalgia. You could always relate some of what she says to PTSD. It is a great site for people who "don't look sick" because it relates. I know it helps me feel better.

http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/

 

[Zef]

"You really have so much going for you."

Yep, you're right. I shoulda been Einstein and Ghandi. I'll start working on that soon. . .right after I stop dreaming about curling up in the closet behind those wonderfully disguising, hanging clothes so you all won't find me.

 

[CrazyHorse]

"Let it go! It was such a long time ago!" " Nobody even remembers it any more!"

- Okay, then don't bring up Jesus to me!

 

[NIKI]

Abuser father says to me: "You seem to think that I have ruined your life.":meh:

 

[stillscared123]

"RELAX! NOTHING IS HAPPENING TO YOU! YOU'RE FINE"

words a friend yelled at me when I was on the verge of having a panic attack in public and seeking out her help. probably the most painful words. or: "what happened to you was bad, but it wasn't that bad."