beaneeboo
Diamond Member
Hey, I've been away for a while 
but I'm back with a question! I hope everyone is well...
So I'm in my 3rd year with my T (specialist Psychologist for DDs). I would say atm things are going OK. Obviously the nature of the work is about relational difficulty for a lot of it and the therapy relationship has highlighted some of that. And he's been professional at managing that with me. Compared to even last year, all of us are doing better (and for those who remember 3, well I haven't heard from him or the critical voice to the extent I used to, for some weeks now.. which is really encouraging)...
But...(always a but!)... My T is quite slow ... he said it himself, he's a slow processor ... I don't think there's anything wrong in that... but I've noticed on quite a few occasions he'll say he'll do something and then doesn't (which has not gone down well internally)... in the last 3 weeks he was supposed to be in contact with my key worker from the Cmht so they could arrange a team meeting with other professionals (because despite being on the CMHT for 1.5 years, they still cant seem to agree on how to best manage my case)... my key worker has tried to contact T to arrange this but he hasn't called back. Each week he says to me he's going to do it but then doesn't. Then says sorry he forgot the next time.
This actually happened before when we were going through a suicidal stage and adult me, after 3 sessions, had to gather the courage to say 'Do you not believe us when we say we're suicidal '? Because I needed a referral to be assessed by the crisis team and to go on to the MH team... which i eventually did after he made the referral because I had to prompt him.
On the one hand, for adult me, it's no biggie.. I've got used to him not doing what he says he will.. but it's so so so so difficult for me to advocate for myself and I don't think he realises how much (you could argue its teaching me skills!)... it's also been incredibly triggering for some of my younger parts too from the trust aspect and just feeling like he doesn't give a f*ck... but again I've been managing to work through some of those issues with him...
I guess my question is, how would you manage this scenario? I know it's such a tiny issue, hardly worth thinking about... but I'm just surprised as a Psychologist of Dissociative Disorders that he wouldn't see the impact of this on me/ us... and that makes those parts of who trust him less trusting... which ultimately will be getting in the way of our work
Thanks
but I'm back with a question! I hope everyone is well...So I'm in my 3rd year with my T (specialist Psychologist for DDs). I would say atm things are going OK. Obviously the nature of the work is about relational difficulty for a lot of it and the therapy relationship has highlighted some of that. And he's been professional at managing that with me. Compared to even last year, all of us are doing better (and for those who remember 3, well I haven't heard from him or the critical voice to the extent I used to, for some weeks now.. which is really encouraging)...
But...(always a but!)... My T is quite slow ... he said it himself, he's a slow processor ... I don't think there's anything wrong in that... but I've noticed on quite a few occasions he'll say he'll do something and then doesn't (which has not gone down well internally)... in the last 3 weeks he was supposed to be in contact with my key worker from the Cmht so they could arrange a team meeting with other professionals (because despite being on the CMHT for 1.5 years, they still cant seem to agree on how to best manage my case)... my key worker has tried to contact T to arrange this but he hasn't called back. Each week he says to me he's going to do it but then doesn't. Then says sorry he forgot the next time.
This actually happened before when we were going through a suicidal stage and adult me, after 3 sessions, had to gather the courage to say 'Do you not believe us when we say we're suicidal '? Because I needed a referral to be assessed by the crisis team and to go on to the MH team... which i eventually did after he made the referral because I had to prompt him.
On the one hand, for adult me, it's no biggie.. I've got used to him not doing what he says he will.. but it's so so so so difficult for me to advocate for myself and I don't think he realises how much (you could argue its teaching me skills!)... it's also been incredibly triggering for some of my younger parts too from the trust aspect and just feeling like he doesn't give a f*ck... but again I've been managing to work through some of those issues with him...
I guess my question is, how would you manage this scenario? I know it's such a tiny issue, hardly worth thinking about... but I'm just surprised as a Psychologist of Dissociative Disorders that he wouldn't see the impact of this on me/ us... and that makes those parts of who trust him less trusting... which ultimately will be getting in the way of our work
Thanks
