Relationship When Actions And Words Don't Match

[caligirl03]

When your combat PTSD sufferer constantly gushes over how much he loves you and can't wait to spend his life with you, but then turns around and treats you like shit, how do you reconcile the two diametrically opposed contrasts? Which should be taken as the real truth?

 

[HFA_Cat]

Cali, I've been on both sides of that fence. And neither one is pretty. I'd hope your fellow is being treated for his PTSD - and there are groups for those who love those vets too. I went to those: they are truly great. Nobody knows what it's like to be in your shoes unless they've been there, that's for sure.

I also have to say to take care of YOU. If you're going to be of help to HIM - you need to be well enough to do it.

 

[Sighs]

I struggle with this as well. How can he tell me he loves me one minute and the next tell me I'm a f*cking moron? Or vice versa. Sigh!

 

[Sweetpea76]

I look at the general stress level. What does he say to me when he's feeling good? That's him.

That being said, it's really hard not to let that mind-screw get to you at times. Actions speak louder than words. He is with me when relationships terrify him, so I know he loves me very much. A little more romance and affection would go a long way for sure though, just for my insecurities.

 

[WildBurrito]

I look at the general stress level. What does he say to me when he's feeling good? That's him.

That...

I'm trying not to take too much solace in that. But I'm still hopeful mine will come back x