Undiagnosed When Do I Stop Being Afraid

[sunni1]

For three 3years in endured a progressively more abusive husband. When I finally left him behind, the scars stayed....30 years later I still can't enjoy sex......HELP

I read a book once that described the results of abuse.."That little piece of my soul that is me, which is usually buried, safe inside, was exposed.. left to scurry from leaf to leaf..unprotected, terrified, confused..convinced there was no place it would be safe."...the person who wrote that experienced it..

That part of my soul has found a safe refuge but at the cost of my libido.. and maybe my second marriage.. I just want to enjoy sex again.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum, Sunni1. :)

I am sorry you are having trouble. I understand the feeling of being afraid and not being able to have sex or enjoy it.

Are you seeing a professional? Now is the time to do that. It takes a lot of patience and work but it is possible to heal and to start moving on to better things.

Take care.