Fallen Angel
New Here
Hi, everyone. I am so glad to have found this forum. I am a PTSD sufferer three times over and supporter to three.
Let me give you the Cliff's Notes version:
I was sexually abused as a child, fondled for an entire year by the chauffeur of a neighbor with whom I carpooled. I was 8 or 9. I never told my folks.
I was a victim of domestic violence. I divorced that man and have been free of him since 2007.
Last August, my children were sexually molested by my fiancés grandfather, who was here visiting us from California. My eldest daughter told me about his actions and as I suspected, he was doing the same to my youngest as well. They had only just turned 7 and 9. I filed charges, did everything I could do to protect them. He was eventually arrested after my fiancés sister was able to record a confession on her phone.
Despite all of this, most of my fiancés family has turned their back on us because this grandfather is 88 years old and has had to stay in jail because of us. So, here I am, a sufferer also supporting three people with PTSD diagnoses. I just can't get over the fact that my fiancé has lost his family when he needs them the most. We have been together for 5 years and they are our family too. Our of this whole hellish ordeal, what hurts so much is seeing how much loss the girls have suffered. Innocence lost and learning of betrayal at such an early age?
Needless to say, we are all in therapy. The girls are in TFCBT. The family is in counseling, Me and fiancé are in individual therapy and we are about to enter couples counseling due to the strain this has caused our relationship.
I've been stumbling around the site reading some posts. It's nice to see I'm note alone.
Let me give you the Cliff's Notes version:
I was sexually abused as a child, fondled for an entire year by the chauffeur of a neighbor with whom I carpooled. I was 8 or 9. I never told my folks.
I was a victim of domestic violence. I divorced that man and have been free of him since 2007.
Last August, my children were sexually molested by my fiancés grandfather, who was here visiting us from California. My eldest daughter told me about his actions and as I suspected, he was doing the same to my youngest as well. They had only just turned 7 and 9. I filed charges, did everything I could do to protect them. He was eventually arrested after my fiancés sister was able to record a confession on her phone.
Despite all of this, most of my fiancés family has turned their back on us because this grandfather is 88 years old and has had to stay in jail because of us. So, here I am, a sufferer also supporting three people with PTSD diagnoses. I just can't get over the fact that my fiancé has lost his family when he needs them the most. We have been together for 5 years and they are our family too. Our of this whole hellish ordeal, what hurts so much is seeing how much loss the girls have suffered. Innocence lost and learning of betrayal at such an early age?
Needless to say, we are all in therapy. The girls are in TFCBT. The family is in counseling, Me and fiancé are in individual therapy and we are about to enter couples counseling due to the strain this has caused our relationship.
I've been stumbling around the site reading some posts. It's nice to see I'm note alone.
