When Does The Fear And Anxiety Lessen Up?

[Mariealoha]

I feel so much anxiety and fear, feels like it will last forever. Seems to be not getting but worse. Triggered easily. I want to be isolated away from people, only a few that I know and trust do I want to be around. I used to go to dance, I used to work, I used to socialize every Sunday. Now I can hardly run to the store for food. I am afraid of every man i don't know.

The police only made my fears worse. I told them that I felt scared and thought there were a lot of creepy guys around. He said yes. The creeps flee to this part bc other places that have warrants for these monsters won't pay out what it costs to extradite them.
Wtf?!

Confirmed again at my disability intake by other women who both had similar stories. Cops are crooked not to be trusted and don't give a shit about solving violent crimes against women.

I just want to feel safe!!!' It's not too much to ask.

 

[Jnean]

no it is no too much to ask! You deserve it! It can help if you can recognize that the feeling may not be just fear, it could be a whole bunch of different feelings hard to express but I guess that's just me so not sure for you. Fear doesn't have to ruin our lives, I was able to see that my fears were almost more of a pattern that I had so I kept going to my safe place to remember that it exists. I also couldn't have done this with out therapy and meds. I also realized that my fears are what makes up my courage to go on. Hang in there. Hugs if you accept.

 

[Changing4Best]

The anxiety can takes years to let up and then it just comes and goes. Have you considered treatment? I turned to a Psychiatrist and a therapist to help me. I take meds and that helps a lot. The meds mask the anxiety, but not the fear itself. You have to work that out with a therapist.

In the USA, there are mental health treatment centers in most cities, the larger ones anyway. They can help you obtain meds for free from the manufacterers and will help you to see a therapist on a sliding scale basis according to your income. These services have helped me to become a much happier healthier and less fearful person. Check it out!

 

[Mariealoha]

I see a psychologist once a week and will soon start with psychiatry. My first appt is tomorrow.

 

[Changing4Best]

OK, so let us know how it goes tomorrow, OK? And let us know how it is going in general as time goes on. I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well!

 

[Mariealoha]

OK, so let us know how it goes tomorrow, OK? And let us know how it is going in general as time goes...

Ok. Thank you!

 

[Mariealoha]

I also feel like the stress has changed who I am and how I relate to the world. For some strange reason it feels permanent.

 

[Friday]

For me the time question is one of those unknowables. It will. It always does. But when? I don't know. Could be moments, minutes, hours, days, longer. In the crush, a moment can last an eternity, and then blink! and it's over.

One of the hardest things for me, is that when I kick into survival mode, is that my brain starts operating very much "in the now". There is only this moment, and now is forever. No past, no future, just now. ((Always was & always will be are riders on that one. :meh: Annoying riders, at that. Aalso cognitive distortions; always & never.)) I have to work very hard to be able to look past that and see ahead -or behind me- and sometimes it's just not possible. Even though I know it intellectually, what it feels like, is now is forever. No future. Can't see what's in front of me.

In actual survival? That shit's wicked useful. In the day to day managing of life? Soooooo not useful! All the 'live in the moment' or 'live as if it's your last day every day' is such bullshit. Hello! Bad. Idea. I need to pay bills, & buy eggs, & plan for both short & long term goals!!! Aaaaargh.

Going about the daily managing of life stuck in the now (or the past) is -at best- like wearing a blindfold while running along a cliff. Aka, full stop. And move very very slowly. Get a peek? Maybe be able to move faster, until I can't trust my memory of the peek. Massive anxiety, and shaky going until my next peek. Breathe. Okay. Go. Stop. If someone's with me -that I trust- I might be able to move faster, but I'm still working blind here! It's hard going.

 

[EveHarrington]

Sometimes it takes quite awhile for the anxiety to go away. I say this not as a deterrent rather to encourage you to keep fighting if things don't get better as soon as you want them to.

 

[Deleted member 34424]

Bluntly, after many moons of dedicated therapy work of many kinds.