Sexual Assault When Does The Pain Go Away?

[I am .....]

I'm sorry to hear what u have been through. My assault was two and a half yrs ago and some days I feel like I'm simply treading water. However I do have more good days then bad ones now. It takes as long as it takes. I know that's not what u want to hear but there is no time frame on this type of recovery. Just remember u survived this! Talking about it helps. Sometimes we don't want to be fixed we just want to be heard. Do u have someone u feel comfortable with and trust to talk to? an older female figure maybe. Someone like ur mum or an aunt or a teacher or a friends mum. Do follow through with a therapist it helps. If u don't have a therapist in ur village u feel comfortable with, like what was previously suggested, try finding one online who will Skype with u. I do recommend a trauma therapist tho.

 

[jasmineaila]

Is the clinician that diagnosed you still involved? ie. doing therapy with you?
or do you need to find a T...

No their not because they are moving away or something

 

[void]

No their not because they are moving away or something

oic
do u know what u will do to find someone else?
ie. a plan

 

[RussH]

@jasmineaila I am truly sorry for what you have been through. I wish there was some kind of justice for you, and I truly wish there was an easy answer for you, but the road to recovery is not easy, but it is doable.

The one thing I have learned is there is no returning to normal. However that also means that you can develop your own new normal. Again this is not easy. It starts with recognizing you cannot go back to how things were, but you can learn to accept and overcome the effect your trauma is having on you. You can learn to recognize the feelings, the emotions and the negative thoughts associated with your trauma, and put them into their proper perspective.

I am not sure if this helps at all, but I do hope it does.





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[Lucycat]

Hi @jasmineaila
I am sorry to hear your story. That sounds dreadful.
I am assuming you mean emotional pain rather than physical? I would certainly hope you have dealt with any physical issues before now. As for emotional - that is a tough call. Until you have really processed it in your mind, it will continue to hurt you. You really need to understand and believe deep inside, that it was not your fault. It is easy to say, but far harder to grasp. I think once you get that, the pain gets less.

Others have suggested therapy. That really is the best way forward, and through remote means if that is all that is available. The important thing is that you don't try and deal with this alone.

I am glad you have found the forum and hope you find it helpful.