When everything is just too much..

[Itsnotyouitsme]

Hi all,
Currently it feels as though my entire life is falling apart again with so many things missing, a complete lack of direction, the fear of the unknown, and being faced with situations in which I have no choice but to make life changing decisions.

It’s all really taking a toll on me and I’ve noticed myself going into withdrawal mode again..

Just wondering what are your coping mechanisms to keep yourself motivated to move forward when everything is just simply too much?

 

[joeylittle]

Currently it feels as though my entire life is falling apart again

I guess my first suggestion would be to break down this thought a little more. What are the things happening that are leading you to this feeling?

 

[ladee]

This may sound so simple as to almost invalidating your concerns, but the main thing I have to do is remind myself, nothing lasts forever. Get myself calmed and try to take a look at what is going on.



Then break it down into groups. Things I can do something about today. Things that will take time. And possibly things that are not important to the issue at hand, and let it go. Or at least take it off the table for now.

It is a distraction in a sense to keep me from feeling I am in a barrel going over the waterfall. Gets my brain to calm down. Makes me look at things more objectively instead of emotionally. And breaks it down to things I can do one at at time. Or not do. Depending on what it is.

Been where you are so many times. Maybe others will come on and share what they do when feeling overwhelmed. Hope things slow down for you.

 

[TruthSeeker]

I have to go back to list making.....and depending upon what is my priority on that day, I make a list and keep it minimal if I have energy issues, too. So, focus on what I can do, and in Notes on my Iphone, I make a list and highlight it when I'm done. If I'm having a tough functional day, then my list is geared to be more functional. This gets me up and doing, rather than staying in the bed. I put something on the list that will be highly distracting-like a favorite movie, something that requires me to offload my feelings-like here, or journaling, or poetry, or something physical that will be productive and I won't beat myself up because I sat around all day and did nothing....but stew over it. I don't know, but keeping moving as opposed to shutting down when everything is falling apart and overwhelming is good. I also go get hair done, or get a pedi and that feels good, and I look better. If I'm feeling like a loser on a particular day, I try not to look like one.....LOL....little things do help. I also say to myself, "This is only a moment in time." which is helpful in deflating the issue......

 

[Itsnotyouitsme]

Thank you all for your kind input.

It definitely is a tough one to keep yourself moving forward when you almost feel stuck and overwhelmed by the amount of things that are going on in the current moment.

I have taken your advice and decided to keep myself busy, whether it be work or house chores, or even working out! But ultimately I always end up back in the same spot feeling overwhelmed and just like I am ready to explode at any point.

Actually, on Sunday that is exactly what happened. I felt the anxiety creeping up on me and no matter the distraction it just grew stronger and stronger and stronger and eventually I exploded in to an absolute emotional mess lead only by my current sadness and at that point, as you may all know too well, the world was falling apart and there was no way out.

It is so frustrating! Even more frustrating when you are forced to make a change in your life and there is absolutely 0 sense of any kind of safety/stability. It's a terrifying place to be, the unknown.