Relationship When Is It Just Ptsd And When Is An Abusive Relationship With Someone With Ptsd?

[Sandi79]

Im ok with my dad still having him work for him. I didn't stop loving him. I don't hate him. I just can't push him into getting help.

He got divorced because once things go good, he distances himself. His ex wife and him had a baby, three months later he bolted for his parents. He thinks he doesn't deserve good things.

At this point, I am here for him as a friend. I'm keeping it casual.

 

[Sandi79]

Ok..so we skyped tonight., He isn;t comeing back here for six weeks. His new job is taking him to Utah for six weeks straight from TN. So we had our weekend talk tonight. He said He would have to have his parents get his stuff and his dog. I asked that he leave his stuff and dog here the six weeks and we talk like we used to. While he was at schoool for the army, we had no problems because he was productive, he felt good about himself. This whole thing was about him feeling bad about himself. So I asked that he give it six weeks of talking and keeping it light, no future plans, no expectations. He said ok

 

[nursenurse]

Just playing devil's advocate... Did you ask him to keep his dog etc so you would hang on to him?

 

[Sandi79]

I need to update this...

No, I asked to keep the dog so I would not have to see his parents.

The updates are all on my diary thread.

 

[Chris516]

You need to watch yourself around him if he is talking like this, even about somebody else. Just because you haven't seen him have a violent temper doesn't mean he doesn't have one, especially if he is untreated and stressed.

Good luck.

Ditto

I told my online friend the same thing about her breakup with her (ex)boyfriend. I told my friend I was concerned about her safety because of her (ex)boyfriend becoming physically violent after their nasty breakup. Her response was that he has never been abusive. Abuse doesn't have to only be physical.