Why Does Ptsd Lower One's Libido

[The Albatross]

There are credible therapists and medical facilities who deal with pelvic spasms, and vaginismus. There have been some good prognosis's coming out of those treatments. I just don't have access to them, so I purchased the necessary equipment but have an aversion to going through the requisite treatment period (so far)... I make attempts a couple times a year and just haven't been able to persevere long enough to get the benefit. I haven't yet conquered my psychological block.

 

[rightkindofme]

Uhm, is there any chance you read/enjoy romance novels and/or porn? Do those uhm interest you? I have actually dated multiple transwomen and I know that dilators are pretty hard to make "sexy". In my (limited, but existant) experience it takes a whole evening of working up to it and framing it as a bonding personal exchange. It is hard to make sexy. But I know some freaky people who make just about anything sexy so it is possible to do. It's hard. It was fun and worthwhile energy spent. :)

 

[The Albatross]

Nope, can't stand either "genre". Not one whit of interest. I am almost completely disconnected from myself as a sensual being. I am more cerebral and don't even like to watch "smarm" on movies. It is actually annoying.

I guess the "bond" thing is a good point, though I have not been willing to submit myself to physical pain... to get the "bond"/perceived benefit.

I don't really want to lose my husband, but I haven't been able to make a decision to either be vulnerable or to tolerate "that kind" of pain for a very long while.

 

[rightkindofme]

My husband told me point blank that around two years is when he won't be able to handle celibacy. I feel rather motivated to not lose interest. :-/

 

[The Albatross]

My husband self pleasures but we draw the line at online porn. We are more or less waiting for the right "discipline(s)" to address this area. Me, not so much (self pleasure). Very exposing to say on an open forum. But I apparently made an agreement with myself that sensuality was self destructive. Got to work on that too I suppose.

 

[anthony]

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/lets-talk-about-sex-and-intimacy.19315/[/DLMURL]
[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/depression-and-lack-of-sex-drive.28811/[/DLMURL]
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To put it simply, loss of sex drive has to do with the brains composition at any given time. Depression is the factor screwing around with your brains makeup, serotonin and such. That is what affects your sex drive foremost. Anti-depressants often curb sexual desire as a result, because sexual desire is activated by your brain, which affects your bodies desire, so forth.

It's similar for menopause, where the bodies hormones become out of balance, thus depending on which way the balance goes, a woman can suddenly be a horny rabbit during menopause, or no desire at all, depending uniquely on the person. Just like pregnancy, a women goes one way or the other typically depending on hormone balance for their body.

Males have similar responses during later years as their hormones change. You could be overtly horny, or lack desire completely, or no real change.

 

[The Albatross]

I haven't had menopause, and lost my libido at 40... so for me it's likely the serotonin thing. I'm slightly lower than normal range and my mom/dad/brother all three are/or were taking SSRIs. I depression isn't a big deal for me anymore. But I'll do the reading. Thanks Anthony.

 

[C34TP]

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