Wife Of Man With PTSD For Last Ten Years

[Frogfeet]

Hello everyone,

It's nice to be able to chat to people who get what PTSD is and the impact it has.

I decided to try and find some kind of support after I had a dream last night in which I had an affair, the man I had the affair with was fun, spontaneous and adventurous, when I woke up I realised I had been dreaming about my husband before PTSD.

My husband first developed PTSD after military service in the Balkans 10 years ago, the same length of time we have been married.

The military sent him to do a computer programme to cure him and then packed him off to a few more wars, he left full time service five years ago and lasted about 12 months before he applied for a commission and began working as a cadet instructor part time. Most of our friends are still in the forces.

We recently spent 18mths doing humanitarian stuff in Africa with our three young kids, he has this obsession with trying to make good all the evil in the world.

He was arrested on fabricated murder charges, subsequently acquitted but we now have to go through a huge civil case against the corrupt police who tried to frame him (I know you couldn't make this stuff up). This also made the PTSD a million times worse and he got violent and smashed in a door.

When he sleeps he can wake up and be verbally abusive, he sleep walks loads (naked laundry is an amusing side effect), the next day he knows nothing about it.

The CPN in Africa put him on tranquillisers which helped a bit, but since we got back the panic attacks have been awful , he won't go to the GP and wants private medical care.

Gosh, I feel a bit of a whinge now.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Hi Frogfeet.....Welcome to the forum. There is a ton of information for you to read, and also a carers section that should be of help to you also.....Read as much as you can, because the more info that you have, the better able you are to understand what us sufferers go through, and how you can take care of yourself.....

 

[amethist]

Hi Frogfeet

Welcome to the forum.

You will find a lot of support, advise and loads of useful information to help both you and your husband.

As a carer please try and remember to take care of yourself too, it is so easy to forget that part. I am a carer so I understand how difficult that can be at times, but it is important.

Take care and good luck.

Amethist

 

[anthony]

Gosh, I feel a bit of a whinge now.

Welcome to the forum.

If you remain factual, then know that it is not a whinge. Don't dismiss what you feel, but just accept that if you speak the truth then you should not have to feel as though you are whinging... because your not. Whinging is typically encompassed around blowing things out from fact, mistruth and such. Your doing just fine.

 

[Jesshens1125]

Hi there!

My name is Jessica, I am new here, my husband is in the Military and has PTSD. We are new to all of this, he was diagnosed in October of last year after trying to kill him self. I feel completely lost, this journey has been so painful for me. you've lived with it for so long, how do you cope? The dream you mentioned having, it happens to me often. He will say something in a good moment and i will flash back to the man he used to be and I miss that man SO much. He is my bestfriend, we are young, we live apart (He is still in active duty) our life has changed so much with the PTSD, sometimes i dont know how to handle it all. i would love to talk with you more about how you cope, how you have kept your marriage together for so long with the PTSD. We were married in June, have been together a year now, and he was diagnosed in October, it's all still so new. anything you can offer me would be so amazing. Thank you!