Worst Type Of Sexual Assault?

[Ofe]

I personally think psychological torture is worse than physical torture. This is just my opinion though.

I'm glad you said it's just your opinion. Thank you.

I agree with the above two posts that comparisons are wrong. Meaningless too. What kind of psychological torture, what kind of physical torture? For how long? Who by? What context? With what history?

Anyone can only talk from their own experience, not in any general sense that would apply to other people. Even before getting into all the things that are particular to each individual, we're not even comparing the same experiences. You might think X is worse than Y, but your X may be completely different from my X. It's not like we're comparing something that comes out the same from a factory, like red M&Ms or blue ones.

 

[Tafu]

I don't think the OP is trying to put it on a scale of 1-10 and honestly, I think some people are over-reacting. It's just a case of which, if any, would be most psychologically damaging to you as an individual. It's all bad, well, bad puts it mildly, but I think there are some acts that seem more degrading (personally, to me and me alone, as an opinion only).

I've been raped vaginally, orally and anally and I've got to say, vaginal rape has been the easiest to deal with. Orally, urgh, makes me feel sick and has impacted on my life in other ways (aversion to certain foods etc). Anally, for me was the worst though, because of the 'dirty' connotations and because it was physically the most painful and something about being raped from behind was more upsetting.

It'll be different for everyone; it's all wrong, but it's an interesting thread because I've found some acts that were done to me, easier (relatively to me- I'm unsure how much more I can stress this) than others.

 

[Inuvek]

The OP asked it as a general, not individual, question:

However, do you think there is an act(s) that somebody could inflict on a victim that is more distressing than others?

and a number of responses are about why some types of assault are worse in general (anal is dirty, vaginal is natural etc).

You may be talking individually but the thread topic isn't. It encourages people to judge one type of trauma as worse than another. That's what people are responding to.

 

[Icup]

alright, jeez sorry.

 

[Onoh]

Perhaps a more appropriate question would have been "what part of sexual abuse is worse for the individual".

There is no area of the body that makes sex worse than another, and it's not nice to even start measuring or go down that route.

But if i can understand the question as what part of sexual abuse is hardest to deal with, then I would say, the psychological part. It's the part that says it's your fault, you deserve it. Or the part that says "I'm your friend, this abuse is meant to be ok, other people like it, it's just you making a fuss" or " don't over-react, you'll get used to it" or "aww, you couldn't help it, don't worry, i won't tell anyone", or "shhh, you don't want to wake your sister", or "you're frigid, there's something f*cking wrong with you, you've spoiled it by crying..."

I can't even understand the body side of it, it's that mind f*ck side of it that I feel damaged by.

 

[Pato]

To me, it's all traumatic whatever the assault was. I cannot fathom and relate my experience to others since it's all traumatic.

I can only speak from one of many incidents. Perhaps the worst for me was being raped at 14 and him (19) telling his friends about it. They're all a sick bunch...I went out one night and they all made fun of me. This happened about 5 times, I tried to avoid places and everything but I would still run into his friends.

I was only 14 and so scared my family would find out since I know my dad would go berserk. I kept it secret until I was 18...

 

[Remag]

After some of the recent news stories I think sexual assault where the victim dies from the horrific injuries is the worst. But then again the psychological damage caused by that amount of physical trauma might make survivors think that death would have been preferable?

 

[Ifafob]

I am not going to read this as I don't want to be upset but I don't like the ethos of this thread. It seems it is pure trauma comparison. Very unhelpful for me on a personal level and I don't think I am alone and also doesn't take into consideration how personal reactions and the back story affect how upsetting we find something. Mostly I just think it is an unhelpful way to approach things in general.

In my opinion it should at least have been "what do you find the worst..."

Somethings are obviously horrific and going to be worse than other experiences but I find the way this is worded not ideal. .

 

[Helegor]

Oral was the worst for me because I was forced to participate and I was supposed to be "making it good for him". He gave me plastic dildo that I was supposed to practice on and he even drew a line near the base of his dick where he said my lips should be at. If he wasn't satisfied with my efforts he would make me lay on my belly and then push it in and out himself and make me gag and unable to breath. I was expected to take the whole thing. 20 years later I still cant do this to my husband without having flashbacks.

 

[Uvize]

Sexual assault is horrific, in any form, for both females and males. I believe that incestual rape could possibly be the worst, though. I had a friend who was assaulted repeatedly by her own father until the age of 22.

 

[Sejov]

I was raped vaginally and anally, I think in my opinion, that being anally raped is "worse" than oral or vaginal. They are all horrible and so disgusting, but I think anal is the worst. I never had anything in there so it tore me up inside mentally and physically and hurt so bad as well as vaginal because I was a virgin but anal hurt worse.

 

[Ufe]

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