Poll Would You Want To Know?

[Jlso111187]

My son knows his biological dad is in prison but he doesnt know what for. I think he may get curious. No we arent the only two that know there are court papers that tell all. I didnt even know all of it as I had been passed out on drugs 17 times this happened and he went into detail what he did to me.

My husband took the roll of daddy when my son was about 4 years old and has been there though thick and thin with me as well as my son. I love him so much and feel so blessed to have him in my life. So my son knows him as dad but knows that he is not his biological father. Hes 8 almost 9 so I'm worried that the time to tell him may come sooner rather than later.

I am scared that he will think less of himself and even though he is the product of rape he is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. When I concived him I was into drugs bad due to all the stuff that had happened to me and the day I turned his father in was the day I found out I was pregnant with him and since that day I have been sober. I have been offered pot alot and I dont even have the urge for it. My children mean more. I dont want him to feel as he ruined my life, or that it was his fault in someway that I have the problems I do.

I hope that the time does not ever come.

 

[DharmaGirl]

Jiso, congrats on quitting drugs! That must have been hard but its amazing what you can do for your child. My father told me when I was 4 or 5 that I was a nice little girl but I wasn't his little girl. I asked him who my father was and he said he didn't know. The worst thing about it was that it was a lie. Made me feel 2nd best the rest of my life.

 

[Orglethorp]

since that day I have been sober. I have been offered pot alot and I dont even have the urge for it. My children mean more.

If your son finds out, or if he wants the truth when he's a little older, tell him this part.

 

[Jlso111187]

Oh, I know. I have things planned on saying. I just know other people who are the product of rape and no matter what they feel like they ruined there moms life. I dont ever want my son to feel like that. He means more to me than words can describe.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I said no. This never turns out well on any of the SVU episodes---I know it's only tv, but at the same time, you can see the raw emotions coming out. It's the kind of thing that could cause someone to question their existence. I don't think you can make the assumption that someone looking for their bio-mom would want to know they are a product of rape.