Writing stories and creating characters threads

[Swift]

Laziness! Hell yes!
Because it is totally not like some people write and blog about their experiences publicly; or there are literal books devoted to the experiences; or there is a time and a place to ask someone for that kind of input.
I've had mates (who write) approach me and be like, hey, I know this is a really difficult subject for you, but I'd like to talk a bit more about it cos I don't understand/am drawing or writing/ have a mate going through something similar, and if you'd be open to that, I'd like to talk a bit more about it. That is okay! They're asking, not simply inserting themselves and demanding an explanation.
Some of them I've told, some of them I've said I appreciate how sensitively you've asked but I'm not really ready to.
(Idiots who ask me rude questions tend to get rather rude replies.)

 

[Sweetleaf]

It is lazy.

Generally speaking, I don't think the people asking such things on online forums are the kind of people who have the motivation and drive to actually manage to write a book.

So, it doesn't bother me.

I do write a lot of things here that I haven't been able to say out loud, or haven't chosen to.

But, there are some really important and major aspects of my trauma I never post about here, and I don't know if I ever will. I probably won't. I have spoken about some of that to my pdoc and to my old t, but not to anyone else really. It's like, stuff I need help with, and it's stuff that really affects me, but it's stuff I don't want to share with people, so I keep it to the minimum number of people possible.

What I share here, I'm okay with people knowing, just because it is relatively anonymous. If someone reads my posts and writes some of that shit into some character, I don't really care. I don't know why the f*ck they would want to write that character, lol.

 

[shatter eyes]

Thanks to everyone for adding perspective. I hope this thread may be useful to story seekig visitors also. The multitude of responses can be useful as awareness to how sensitive requests for trauma stories can be. Kinda like a lawn sign spelling "Beware and proceed with caution, care, compassion, and respectful due-diligence."

I'd rather have them get the story right than further perpetuate stigma.

thanks for this because I never thought of it that way and it makes me less reactive if approached. STIGMA sucks...

 

[Virtues]

The funny thing is I sent in a support request to admin not too long ago with regards to this very issue. I wanted to discuss (in detail) my story and get feedback, but I didn't want my story left up on the forum when I was finished getting my feedback. Unfortunately admin told me they do not make special exceptions to delete material (which I understand) so I chose not to follow through with the idea. My therapist thought it would be a good idea to start to share my story to take some of its power away and to reassure me that people wouldn't judge me as harshly as I judge myself.

As anonymous as this forum is, I didn't want my story to be discovered by someone wading through the forum, then copied and reproduced either on social media, or in some other type of medium. Then for it to go viral, and someone from my old team to recognize the story and the part I played in it, and try to track me down to ask me WTF??? That's why there are certain parts of my trauma that will remain mine.

 

[blackemerald1]

there are certain parts of my trauma that will remain mine

Same with me. :)

I think most ppl would worry about exactly what you have described. The truth is far stranger than any fiction. Or real life is. There may be exceptions amongst members on this forum who are not worried about their experience being public but I don't really believe there would be that many.

It would be a huge headache for admin on this site to start offering a deletion of member's input. Where would it stop? How could you ever be sure it had not already been read etc., and never come back to haunt you in a place where you never intended? This is the internet.