heres one I'm struggling with and would love a conversation about. Except I do not really know the questi...
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@Links I do understand what you are struggling with I think, and that is to have both of my feet, mind and entire being here in this moment, space, and time. For a long, long time I tried to pull up the anchor and pull myself out of my past, and even through DBT and CBT, I simply could not, and it wasn't for the lack of trying and failing.
Let me say right here and right now, what works for some may not work for others. So take what you need here from my post, and leave the rest. I do care about how you feel, which is evident in my posting to you, here and now.
And, prior to Emdr Therapy last year and this year
@Links, I was truly stuck in yesteryear and felt like I was drowning in the sea of my multiple violent trauma memories; and now, not so much. However, there is nothing wrong with behaving and functioning like I'm in the '70's unless my behaviors are dysfunctional and then I probably would have a problem with it. You are talking about pulling up the anchor and I may be entirely missing your point, I hope not. My mind use to wander aimlessly looking for a place to feel safe, protected, and free, until after I went to Emdr therapy
@Links.
Yes, I do have to tell my brain on rare occasions that no I'm not going to think about certain past issues that were never processed in Emdr Therapy; yet this is the exception rather than the rule of thumb on how my days plays out again, post Emdr.
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@Links and post Emdr, I remain mostly for a great amount of my day in 2017, unless I am in yesterday, etc. over something I forgot to do, or need to do (not year) and try and remain front and center, present and accounted for, and this can be exhausting too! So I take breaks and do deep diaphragmatic breathing exercises 1,2,3,4,5 in and then 1,2,3,4,5 out and, repeat. Also I listen to meditation music, and if in earlier mid-day I may nap, depending, also Eft tapping helps to de-stress, as well. Also, magnesium and melatonin supplements sure do help, too.
Most certainly I can somewhat remember vividly how it used to be to feel forced to live moment to moment and living in the severe violent trauma memories and how they kept me from living in the present, in the now and feeling now as I do now mostly connected to life and in 2017(this is scary for me too, for I'm not accustomed to living in the moment and this seems to take practice, practice, practice as well).
Did you tell your T that when you try to adjust yourself, that this becomes a question in your mind? Hope you will and hope you'll keep posting good, solid and important questions for you help all with each one. Jade.
