Got Bad News

[atwistedfate]

So I was sitting at home and I got a text from a friend saying that their husband was in the hospital for chest pains. So what do I do I grab two bottles of beer and slam them. This is nothing new it is what I do when I get bad news try to stop myself from thinking and get drunk. The problem is that two isn't enough. I don't want to drink anymore because I have to work tomorrow but I just don't want to think about someone I care for loseing someone. I am tired and I don't know what to do about this. I know getting drunk won't help them but it's all I know.

 

[Stickler]

The guy is already in the hospital.
Heart attacks are usually fatal outside of a hospital.
Inside it, they may be able to prevent it from happening or to catch it prior to it doing serious heart damage.
So...workout time?
You're tired, can you call it an early night?
Pint of ice cream?

 

[EveHarrington]

Are you in therapy? Is your therapist teaching you any coping skills?

 

[atwistedfate]

Are you in therapy? Is your therapist teaching you any coping skills?

No to therapy

 

[Justmehere]

Dump out all your beer. Get rid of the ability to drink. Then maybe call a friend and ask them to hang out with you? Sadness and anxiety and worry are very difficult emotions… But the more that you can ride them through, the quicker they will change and not be such a heavy burden to bear.

Google as much as you can about healthy ways to distract - and if you can have somebody with you who agrees to not drink as well, it may be easier.

 

[Chimera]

Books, movies, meletonin(to put you to sleep)
I do the same thing when stressor hit. I cannot stop the emotional spinning.
I read, a lot.

Do you have anything to help you sleep other than alchohol?

 

[Adrian2016]

May I respectively suggest trying marijuana as a substitute for alcohol? Obviously self medicating is not the best long term strategy, but regardless many of us with ptsd (including myself) have been known to....marijuana will help you alot more, and won't keep you from work or normal activities...very few negative side effects. I used to be an alcoholic, now I'm not, because I use medical cannabis. Just an idea...

 

[scout86]

My therapist told me sometime back that he thought I needed more stopping off points between "everything is fine" and "The end of the world is HERE!" . Sounds like maybe you do too. (Therapy might not be a bad idea.)

 

[atwistedfate]

Thank u all