Christianity/christians

[RussH]

In my experience a lot of Christians do not understand PTSD

I would suggest that this is not exclusive to Christians. I have had a lot of people who are not Christians tell me to forgive and forget, to move on, to just get over it. They just do not understand. They, people without PTSD, don't realize that we have lost a part of ourselves.

I will sometimes tell them, to put it into perspective, to give this same advice to someone who has lost a limb. A person who has lost a limb has certain limitations. Now they can overcome it with a lot of therapy, and retraining, but they cannot just forget it and pretend that they still have that limb. they will always have limitations.

A person with PTSD is the same way, we have limitations. Now with a lot of therapy and retraining we can overcome it, but we can never just forget it, and pretend we don't have it. We will always have certain limitations.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

I am proud to say I am a christian. However I share your disdain for people such as you described above. I choose to attend church. I do so because I found one that doesn't people like you stated in it. And just FYI....I can do without religion myself. Being a christian has very little to do with the one or two hours you would spend inside of a church. It has everything to do with how you treat people the other 166 or 167 hours of the week. I think we can take any group or organization and find those who are not pure of heart and motives. But we don't throw the baby out with the bath water. JF, you are no more needy than anyone is. We are all needy insofar as acknowledging that we need some guidelines to help us lead a spiritually content life. Content has nothing to do with perfection. There is no such thing and there never will be. JF, trust your heart and your conscience because I can tell you have a kind heart and just want to do the right thing as best as you can. Do that, trust yourself, and you will be well on your way to feeling better.

 

[The Albatross]

Who said anything about perfection? There's a big difference between personal development/refinement of character and perfection.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

I misspoke. I meant to say that contentment has nothing to do with perfection. Sorry about that. My original thought was meant to mean that I think some people view christians as people who think they are perfect. There are people everywhere in every walk of life who may have this belief. But I think the vast majority of us know that there is no such thing.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I'm just sick of the "Forgiveness, Christian, God, Religion" talk on this website. It feels like it's turning into a fire and brimstone, raise your hands up, chant till you die site instead of a PTSD site. Gonna go throw up now!!!!!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

God can make it all better.

My family does this. Ive heard "just give it to god" about a 10, 000 times. It is NOT that simple. Most especially because my trauma happened intermixed, around, and was called Christianity so its all very confusing and no one in my family can seem to get that. It honestly isnt a magical fix as they all think.

Neither is forgiving and going to see one of my main abusers on her death bed. Another thing they all said to do.

I know there is another less fundlemental "brand of christianity" and this isnt all Christians because my therapist is Chriatian, has 2 theolgy degrees (which helps with my trauma) and talks a bit about his beliefs and sort of liberal non fundlemental church (when i ask only) and the differences between his beliefs and my family's. So it isnt all Christians. Just the ones you've been exposed to.

 

[Neverthesame]

Maybe it's because PTSD can be mistaken for sloth (deliberately choosing to dwell on negative past events), which is a sin. Which must be what PTSD is right?
After all, God would never punish an innocent person. They must be making it up for attention.:shifty:

I guess empathy is too much to ask of some christian church leaders.
Sigh...

 

[The Albatross]

She Cat, the opening poster asked, "Most christians cannot understand that and expect a quick fix. It infuriates me! And then they emphasize and focus on everything they cannot do for me because apparently I am too needy and I should just turn to Jesus. what do I do?" And states that they are a firm believer.

So these responses are directed to someone who is a believer. What you want to believe or not is totally up to you.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I guess empathy is too much to ask of some christian church leaders.

Remember, most people fear what they dont understand (even if they dont see it as fear).

Ive tried to explain, some are not wanting to understand so those i just stop knowing they dont want to understand.

But its not all. Some most certianly. Even a lot, but not all. ;)

Ive actually had to use troops with PTSD as an example as most get troops with PTSD but very little get abused with PTSD.

 

[scout86]

I'm just sick of the "Forgiveness, Christian, God, Religion"

Have you tried avoiding the threads that clearly reference any of that in the title? Seems like that would cut down your exposure at least a little.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

Scout, that sounds like a very positive way for anyone to reduce their stress level. Good idea.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@scout86 Yes, I have thought about that!!!! I've also had these thoughts.

1). I'm entitled to my opinion.
2). Maybe the ones posting about religion should go post on a religious forum.